Is it normal for a PDD Nos child to hurt siblings?

My 3 almost 4 yr old boy loves to hit,pull hair and is aggressive if not getting his way with his siblings.Sometimes he just hurts them just to have something to do it seems.He does not show any emotion or feel any remorse even though they are crying.He does not do this at school.His teachers tell me he is so sweet but he does not play with other children in school or anywhere else except at home so i believe this is the reason.Even at his cousins house he will start to be mean to them to after being there a while and getting comfortable.He has not been fully diagnosed yet but I have been told by a neurologist and family doctoer that he seems to be on the spectrum.He does have a few sensory issues and other signs.Is it normal for a PDD Nos child to hurt siblings?
No matter what condition he has, you need to establish some rules.

Tell him that hitting, hair pulling, etc is not acceptable, and give him reasoning.

"It is not right to hit because you hurt your sister's feelings. Would you like it if she hit you?"



Tell him to use his words:

"Ask your brother nicely if you can use his crayons."



Help him by giving him the words to use to express his emotions:

"Do you feel angry because I said you can't have cookies right now?"



Give him alternatives to violence, such as coloring, running around in the yard, playing ball, etc.



Be patient. If he does have a condition, it will take a lot of consistency and time.



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PDD.NOS encompasses so many areas. The aggression seen in many PDD.NOS children is from the sensory processing issues with seeking tactile input, and the impulsivity piece is the ADD/HD component that frequently accompanies this. He needs an OT to address the sensory processing.