When my custody order was set my son was only 6mos old, and had yet to have been diagnosed as PDD-NOS my son is 4 years old now. My ex is your textbook deadbeat. Won't work because the state will garninsh his wages for his 40K in back child support (he has never paid a dime) He will go months and months on end without giving my son a thought or taking a visit, and then all of a sudden he will call and say he wants to take him for a weekend. It is hell on my son because 75% of the time he requests a visit, he will either not show up at all, leaving you sitting in a car waiting with a flipping out four year old, or he will cancel at the last minute. My son thrives on routine. This set up is hell on him. My husband and I have tried to convey to my ex that he needs to be consistent, that the games he is playing right now are causing more harm than good. My son's teachers have tried to make it clear to my ex that what he is doing is NOT working, and that when he does take visits, they have nothing but trouble with my son for a week after he gets home. All of these pleadings are falling on deaf ears with my ex, he does not see his actions as being problematic.
My ex this morning requested another visit forthis weekend, he has not taken a visit since well before Christmas. I flat out said NO, that it was TOO LATE to juggle our plans around (we are taking a family trip) and that it is too short of notice to prepare my son. My ex flipped his lid, said that we are denying him visitation. I do not feel that we deny him visitation. His basis for that allegation is that every other week we do not call him to remind him that he has a visit. He states that by our not calling him to initiate plans, we are in actions denying him access to his son. I am of the mind that I have enough on my plate already and chasing my ex around to remind him to visit his son is not my responsibility.. What he is asking is just silly. He wants me to call him to remind him that he has a visit coming, and then chase him around to firm up pick up time and place. He says that I never call him to set it up and that is why he goes months on end without seeing my son. I think it is BS, but my question is if he were to drag me into court, would a court see his notion as stupid too? Or would I be violating child custody order? The order has never been altered since he was 6 mos old, and is right now every other weekend with his father. Again, his father will take maybe 5 or 6 visits per year. The inconsistant jumping in and out of my sons life causes turmoil, he is on the Autistic Spectrum and needs STRUCTURE. The order does not recognize his needs. I do realize that I should go back to court to have the order reviewed, but my fear is that a judge will agree with my ex about me denying visits because I don't call him and remind him that they are coming up.Child Visitation Question, Ex hardly ever takes visits, son is special needs, needs routine?
The judge will DEFINITELY NOT take your ex's side. He has shown that he is not interested in being a father. It is not your responsibility to organise his visits. I've gone through similar things with my ex. We broke up when my son was 1 and he did not agree to a visitation schedule until almost a year later. During that time he took his son a total of 5 times - only two overnight. He always had excuses as to why he "couldn't" take him. He started the visitation after he moved into his mother's house and I know that she was really the one taking care of my son but regardless he was sticking to it. But now he's moved out of his mum's, and he's starting to ditch his visitation. Last weekend, he called on the day and said he "had to work". I found out later that he chose to work for the extra money. I feel that now he's not living with his mum, he is going to start missing visitation more often. Like you, I don't know whether to continue to let him set us up for disappointment, or just to say no. It's so unfair - they can choose not to use their visitation and there's nothing we can do but as soon as we say no you're not gonna let our kids down again, we're denying them their rights! It's garbage.
Your ex has proven himself to be irresponsible and would not dare to set foot in a courtroom. I am quite surprised he is not already in jail for nonsupport. Have the visitation schedule modified, ask for supervised visitation due to the irregularity of his visits and child's special circumstances.
It is NOT your job to remind him of his child. I promise you a judge would laugh him out of the courtroom on that one, right before he sent him to jail for not paying his court ordered support.Child Visitation Question, Ex hardly ever takes visits, son is special needs, needs routine?
Your husband is not a child so why do you have to remind him to see his son? My advice take him to court full force and a judge will be on your side when he sees what a deadbeat dad he is don't be afraid and go for it!
Are you telling your son about his dad's visits in advance? My daughter is bi-polar and my ex and I don't tell her things until they happen. It's a strategy we've developed that works very well for her. She can't stand to be disappointed.
Your ex has problems. He sounds really narcissistic. No judge will accept that it's your role to initiate visitation. Facilitate, yes. You'd do fine if you went back to court.Child Visitation Question, Ex hardly ever takes visits, son is special needs, needs routine?
Keep a notebook (make sure that it is hanwritten and dated for each entry) every time that you and your son has contact with his father. Record the time, what was discussed, if he came on time, was late or simply did not show up at all. Get your lawyer involved, and show him/her your notebook, because then the lawyer will be able to present it to the judge. Keep track of every little detail, be sure to include how your son reacts to him showing up, not showing up ect. I would also set up a parent teacher conference and try to get their observations in writing as well as talking to your son's doctor about the behavior of his father and the toll that it is taking on your son, again, get it in writing. While it is easy for the courts to dismiss the "he said, she said" routine, it is hard for them to ignore documentation. Also, be sure to record all violence, no matter whom it is directed at. But do not provoke him, he doesn't sound all that stable. Good luck to all of you.
If he does drag you into court, the Judge will likely see him for what he is. For the record, if he does take you to court (not likely as it does cost money and his son doesn't seem to warrant his time much less his money) I would get his teachers to write a statement as to how his visits do affect your son. Heck, I might take him to court myself to get his visits suspended until a time that your ex is more stable and willing to take on regular visits.
It is not your responsibility to contact your ex to arrange for him to take your son.
Saturday, February 18, 2012
What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
He is said to be on the higher functioning end of the Autism Spectrum, but more delayed and confused then typical with Asperger's. He is diagnosed with PDD-NOS, BP, GAD, SPD, and ADHD.
I am trying to compile a list of advantages and disadvantages to help me with the decision whether or not to go along with the school districts plan to gradually mainstream my son from his substantially seperate classroom where he is the only 1st grader with four other boys who are in 4-5th grade. Here is what I have so far:
Advantages:
*Would be with children his own age
*Would have positive role models in the other children to learn from
*Be with teachers who know how to get to his level
*Be away from the principal who filed a 51a on me for not getting him the services that HE believed my son needed when his psychiatrists were telling me he did not meet the criteria for hospitalization. Although it got screened out there are still hard feelings there.
*Be with the counselor for his age group
*Have children his own age to play with/near at recess if he choses to.
*There were some days where he would be in time out more than an hour throughout his day split up between different times. This takes out from his learning times.
Disadvantages:
*He has a very high anxiety level and would be very nervous around 15 other kids in his classroom
*He gets easily overstimulated with noise, people, etc. When he is overstimulated he is more likely to have behavior issues.
*He gets very easily distracted and looses focus.
*His substantially seperate classroom has a time out area and the teachers are trained in therapeutic holds which he needs sometimes. The regular class might not have these things.
I am wondering what others think I should do as far as his placement goes, what other things you can think of that would be advantages or disadvantages of mainstreaming him. He would still have his 1:1 aid with him in either placement. He also gets PT, OT, Speech, Counseling, Sensory Integration, and Social Skills Groups through his IEP.What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
For me the issues is not to mainstream or not to mainstream the issue is what services and support look like for him. He's got a lot cooking in there with that list of alphabet diagnosis as he gets older what primarily impacts him will likely change.
I would first make sure his sensory needs are met - then deal with his ADHD needs (meds, behavior mod etc) that will be the larger part of what will increase his success with typical peers.
Then a look at the Bi Polar stuff - which typically increases it's impact as children get older. What does your medical professional say would be useful.
In other words - the setting is important but the services are critical - what is the Least Restricitifve setting that he will get the services he needs.
Keep in mind that kids on the spectrum don't just 'pick up' typical kids behaviors by being near them - they need direct instruction.
I however am NOT a fan of teaching in isolation and I fear for the future of students on the spectrum who are in the current new favorite thing of special school for Aspy's. When will they ever learn to interact with typical peers outside an artificial environment?What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
Go ahead with mainstreaming. The advantages far outweigh the disadvantages. Those disadvantages would be solved one at a time through mainstreaming and continuous therapy. Hate the principal all you want but I think he knows what he's doing.
Your son needs mainstreaming. If the experts say your son is ready, then you should be happy. If your son does show serious problems, ask if he can go part-time mainstreaming and part-time one-on-one.
My son, diagnosed PDD-NOS at 3yo have gone through the same route. Surviving a seemingly endless list of therapies, he now goes to regular high school, delayed only by a year. He is slow in everything so his newest therapy session is a sports clinic in addition to his reading comprehension tutorials.
It seems your son is in good and capable hands. Don't skimp on therapy. If they say he needs it, go on with it. It takes years for you to notice any slight improvement. He will improve. Just bear with it. Good luck.What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
A few problems with your list of advantages...
Being with children his own age isn't an advantage. It may motivate other advantages, but is not one itself. And whether it would motivate other advantages is still debatable. But it's most definitely not an advantage on it's own.
Also, the majority of children don't make good role models. I know you're likely just looking for social interaction, but he's just going to need to unlearn it and learn an entirely new one as he gets older. If he even actually does learn from them, which he may not.
And I highly doubt the teachers would know how to get to his level. They're trained in how to tell children not to learn anything without their permission, then to spend an hour teaching them a 5 minute concept using very specific methods which result in people not learning half the material. They hardly teach normal students (it's all short term memory, not learning), and I would expect them to be even less prepared to teach a student with different needs.
Also, I kind of thought autistic people had slightly different thought processes... would kind of make the counselor for his age group kind of useless. Again, they're trained to make a very small difference for normal people. None for others.
And while he would have the opportunity to play with/near other children around his age during recess if he wanted to, he'd be forced to if he didn't.
And do you actually think the time outs would be LESS frequent in standard classes?
I can't tell you what you should do, but I really don't think an advantages/disadvantages list is going to help much. Your son is an individual. You can't know how he'll react to something that hasn't happened. Shouldn't use guesswork to make such an important decision.
This part comes from the Guide to the Individualized Education Program, which was developed by the U.S. Department of Education, with the assistance of the National Information Center for Children and Youth with Disabilities (NICHCY). http://www.ed.gov/parents/needs/speced/i鈥?/a>
"Placement decisions must be made according to IDEA's least restrictive environment requirements-commonly known as LRE. These requirements state that, to the maximum extent appropriate, children with disabilities must be educated with children who do not have disabilities.
The law also clearly states that special classes, separate schools, or other removal of children with disabilities from the regular educational environment may occur only if the nature or severity of the child's disability is such that education in regular classes with the use of supplementary aids and services cannot be achieved satisfactorily."
I would keep your list and discuss your concerns with the other members of the IEP team, sometimes they will make adjustments to the IEP but kind of like on a trial basis to see if certain thinks work with the child, such as making some short term goals about your concerns and see how he actually does with them, he may do better than anyone expects and however he does you can adjust them accordingly and/or try different approaches to achieve those goals. Like for example your concern over being overstimulated, perhaps his first few days in a mainstream class the OT can be there to help him adjust to the new enviroment or gradually work him into the mainstream class which would help with his anxiety level, take it step by step.
Remember, if at any time you disagree with his placement even though you are a part of the IEP team, there are a variety of procedures you can follow which are all covered in the procedural safeguards that the school by law should of provided you with. If they did not you can find them here:
http://idea.ed.gov/explore/view/p/%2Croo鈥?/a>
Remember also, that the IEP team must review his IEP once per year (can be sooner per parents or teachers request) and that also that they are required by law to re-evaluate your son every 3 years (can be sooner per parents or teachers request)to see if he still meets the requirements set forth by IDEA. So if at anytime you are in any type of doubt, just request a meeting.
I also suggest visting this website: Tool Kit on Teaching and Assessing Students With Disabilities: Accommodations: How To Select, Administer, and Evaluate Use of Accommodations for Instruction and Assessment of Students with Disabilities
http://www.osepideasthatwork.org/toolkit鈥?/a>
This is a great resource to ensure your son receives any and all accommodations he may need and to get the most from them.
This website includes: modifications or alterations vs. accommodations; documenting accommodations on a student's IEP or 504 Plan; questions to guide accommodation selection; each type of accommodation (presentation; response; setting; and timing/scheduling accommodations) and what can be used for that type of accommodation; which students can benefit from accommodations; examples of accommodations based on student characteristics; Do's and Don'ts when selecting accommodations; guidelines for administering specific accommodations; questionaire to identify various types of presentation, response, setting, and timing and scheduling accommodations for students with disabilities (purpose is to prompt members of IEP teams and 504 planning committees to consider a wide range of accommodation needs); questionnaire to collect information about needed accommodations from the student's perspective; logistics planning checklist (can be used in the planning and implementation of assessment accommodations for an individual student); %26amp; accommodations journal (journal lets the student be in charge).
I am trying to compile a list of advantages and disadvantages to help me with the decision whether or not to go along with the school districts plan to gradually mainstream my son from his substantially seperate classroom where he is the only 1st grader with four other boys who are in 4-5th grade. Here is what I have so far:
Advantages:
*Would be with children his own age
*Would have positive role models in the other children to learn from
*Be with teachers who know how to get to his level
*Be away from the principal who filed a 51a on me for not getting him the services that HE believed my son needed when his psychiatrists were telling me he did not meet the criteria for hospitalization. Although it got screened out there are still hard feelings there.
*Be with the counselor for his age group
*Have children his own age to play with/near at recess if he choses to.
*There were some days where he would be in time out more than an hour throughout his day split up between different times. This takes out from his learning times.
Disadvantages:
*He has a very high anxiety level and would be very nervous around 15 other kids in his classroom
*He gets easily overstimulated with noise, people, etc. When he is overstimulated he is more likely to have behavior issues.
*He gets very easily distracted and looses focus.
*His substantially seperate classroom has a time out area and the teachers are trained in therapeutic holds which he needs sometimes. The regular class might not have these things.
I am wondering what others think I should do as far as his placement goes, what other things you can think of that would be advantages or disadvantages of mainstreaming him. He would still have his 1:1 aid with him in either placement. He also gets PT, OT, Speech, Counseling, Sensory Integration, and Social Skills Groups through his IEP.What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
For me the issues is not to mainstream or not to mainstream the issue is what services and support look like for him. He's got a lot cooking in there with that list of alphabet diagnosis as he gets older what primarily impacts him will likely change.
I would first make sure his sensory needs are met - then deal with his ADHD needs (meds, behavior mod etc) that will be the larger part of what will increase his success with typical peers.
Then a look at the Bi Polar stuff - which typically increases it's impact as children get older. What does your medical professional say would be useful.
In other words - the setting is important but the services are critical - what is the Least Restricitifve setting that he will get the services he needs.
Keep in mind that kids on the spectrum don't just 'pick up' typical kids behaviors by being near them - they need direct instruction.
I however am NOT a fan of teaching in isolation and I fear for the future of students on the spectrum who are in the current new favorite thing of special school for Aspy's. When will they ever learn to interact with typical peers outside an artificial environment?What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
Go ahead with mainstreaming. The advantages far outweigh the disadvantages. Those disadvantages would be solved one at a time through mainstreaming and continuous therapy. Hate the principal all you want but I think he knows what he's doing.
Your son needs mainstreaming. If the experts say your son is ready, then you should be happy. If your son does show serious problems, ask if he can go part-time mainstreaming and part-time one-on-one.
My son, diagnosed PDD-NOS at 3yo have gone through the same route. Surviving a seemingly endless list of therapies, he now goes to regular high school, delayed only by a year. He is slow in everything so his newest therapy session is a sports clinic in addition to his reading comprehension tutorials.
It seems your son is in good and capable hands. Don't skimp on therapy. If they say he needs it, go on with it. It takes years for you to notice any slight improvement. He will improve. Just bear with it. Good luck.What would be the advantages and disadvantages of mainstreaming a child with Autism?
A few problems with your list of advantages...
Being with children his own age isn't an advantage. It may motivate other advantages, but is not one itself. And whether it would motivate other advantages is still debatable. But it's most definitely not an advantage on it's own.
Also, the majority of children don't make good role models. I know you're likely just looking for social interaction, but he's just going to need to unlearn it and learn an entirely new one as he gets older. If he even actually does learn from them, which he may not.
And I highly doubt the teachers would know how to get to his level. They're trained in how to tell children not to learn anything without their permission, then to spend an hour teaching them a 5 minute concept using very specific methods which result in people not learning half the material. They hardly teach normal students (it's all short term memory, not learning), and I would expect them to be even less prepared to teach a student with different needs.
Also, I kind of thought autistic people had slightly different thought processes... would kind of make the counselor for his age group kind of useless. Again, they're trained to make a very small difference for normal people. None for others.
And while he would have the opportunity to play with/near other children around his age during recess if he wanted to, he'd be forced to if he didn't.
And do you actually think the time outs would be LESS frequent in standard classes?
I can't tell you what you should do, but I really don't think an advantages/disadvantages list is going to help much. Your son is an individual. You can't know how he'll react to something that hasn't happened. Shouldn't use guesswork to make such an important decision.
This part comes from the Guide to the Individualized Education Program, which was developed by the U.S. Department of Education, with the assistance of the National Information Center for Children and Youth with Disabilities (NICHCY). http://www.ed.gov/parents/needs/speced/i鈥?/a>
"Placement decisions must be made according to IDEA's least restrictive environment requirements-commonly known as LRE. These requirements state that, to the maximum extent appropriate, children with disabilities must be educated with children who do not have disabilities.
The law also clearly states that special classes, separate schools, or other removal of children with disabilities from the regular educational environment may occur only if the nature or severity of the child's disability is such that education in regular classes with the use of supplementary aids and services cannot be achieved satisfactorily."
I would keep your list and discuss your concerns with the other members of the IEP team, sometimes they will make adjustments to the IEP but kind of like on a trial basis to see if certain thinks work with the child, such as making some short term goals about your concerns and see how he actually does with them, he may do better than anyone expects and however he does you can adjust them accordingly and/or try different approaches to achieve those goals. Like for example your concern over being overstimulated, perhaps his first few days in a mainstream class the OT can be there to help him adjust to the new enviroment or gradually work him into the mainstream class which would help with his anxiety level, take it step by step.
Remember, if at any time you disagree with his placement even though you are a part of the IEP team, there are a variety of procedures you can follow which are all covered in the procedural safeguards that the school by law should of provided you with. If they did not you can find them here:
http://idea.ed.gov/explore/view/p/%2Croo鈥?/a>
Remember also, that the IEP team must review his IEP once per year (can be sooner per parents or teachers request) and that also that they are required by law to re-evaluate your son every 3 years (can be sooner per parents or teachers request)to see if he still meets the requirements set forth by IDEA. So if at anytime you are in any type of doubt, just request a meeting.
I also suggest visting this website: Tool Kit on Teaching and Assessing Students With Disabilities: Accommodations: How To Select, Administer, and Evaluate Use of Accommodations for Instruction and Assessment of Students with Disabilities
http://www.osepideasthatwork.org/toolkit鈥?/a>
This is a great resource to ensure your son receives any and all accommodations he may need and to get the most from them.
This website includes: modifications or alterations vs. accommodations; documenting accommodations on a student's IEP or 504 Plan; questions to guide accommodation selection; each type of accommodation (presentation; response; setting; and timing/scheduling accommodations) and what can be used for that type of accommodation; which students can benefit from accommodations; examples of accommodations based on student characteristics; Do's and Don'ts when selecting accommodations; guidelines for administering specific accommodations; questionaire to identify various types of presentation, response, setting, and timing and scheduling accommodations for students with disabilities (purpose is to prompt members of IEP teams and 504 planning committees to consider a wide range of accommodation needs); questionnaire to collect information about needed accommodations from the student's perspective; logistics planning checklist (can be used in the planning and implementation of assessment accommodations for an individual student); %26amp; accommodations journal (journal lets the student be in charge).
What's wrong with my ears? Why are they becoming more & more sensitive?
I can't handle the sound of people chewing loudly %26amp; popping, clicking, %26amp; smacking their gum. Now, I can no longer handle hearing other people, as well as myself, type on the keyboard.
I know I have hyperacusis, %26amp; I'm easily prone to ear infection, but why is it getting worse? %26amp; this is with certain sounds. Music played in my ears from my mp3 player don't bother me at all. I was told that people with Asperger's have this problem, but I'm not sure if I'm an Aspie. When I was younger, I was suspected to have PDD-NOS, but some of these traits stuck with me. I come close to an anxiety breakdown when I hear painful noises.
33-dB earplugs aren't even effective. Sometimes I wish for COMPLETE silence %26amp; wish I can be deaf when I want to %26amp; hearing when I want to. Music is always pleasant to hear. But I need my silence in order to concentrate.What's wrong with my ears? Why are they becoming more %26amp; more sensitive?
Your best bet is to see a doctor as soon as possible. It might be a serious condition, especially if it's getting worse.
I know I have hyperacusis, %26amp; I'm easily prone to ear infection, but why is it getting worse? %26amp; this is with certain sounds. Music played in my ears from my mp3 player don't bother me at all. I was told that people with Asperger's have this problem, but I'm not sure if I'm an Aspie. When I was younger, I was suspected to have PDD-NOS, but some of these traits stuck with me. I come close to an anxiety breakdown when I hear painful noises.
33-dB earplugs aren't even effective. Sometimes I wish for COMPLETE silence %26amp; wish I can be deaf when I want to %26amp; hearing when I want to. Music is always pleasant to hear. But I need my silence in order to concentrate.What's wrong with my ears? Why are they becoming more %26amp; more sensitive?
Your best bet is to see a doctor as soon as possible. It might be a serious condition, especially if it's getting worse.
Ex has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
Yesterday Child SUpport Enforcement caught up with my ex and demanded that he make a 500 dollar payment by 4pm, or get arrested. This strong action was required as he has never madwe a single payment since my son was born (we were divorced 4mos before he was born) and his balance had gotten "disgusting" in the eyes of the states support commisioner.
Wel my ex proved that he could make payments because in order to avoid jail, he rushed right over the the office with cash. No, he is pissed. He called last night at 11pm demanding a visit with my son for this weekend. He has not seen my son is months. We had repeatedly contacted him for months inquiring upon his intentions. No response. Back in January he cancelled a visit because I wold not give him money or buy groceries for the weekend. In January he also on 2 occasions set a visit time and place for pick up, then did not show. My husband had driven my son to the location, waited 45 minutes for him to show, only to get a call from this man saying "ha ha how do you like to be ****** with". He stated that he did this to prove that he was in "control" of my son, not us. My son is diagnosed with having an Autistic disorder (PDD-NOS) and needs structure. Every one of his stunts has hurt my son. My ex refuses to appropriately educate himself on my son's diagnosis. He took 4 visits in the last 18mos, the last one being months ago. When my son returned he was filthy, and he screamed for 3 hours non stop. He was physically fine, but very very upset. It took me 3 hours of rocking him to get him to calm down. It was the most heartwrenching thing I have ever witnessed.
My son is also on a GFCF diet, and my ex refuses to adhere to it, citing the foods are too expensive. He has over the last year on three occasions offered to sign over his rights if we pay him money.
Bottom line, he is still not prepared to care for this child. His behavior has been childish, and I am terrified at the prospect of him being alone with him. On the short term, what can I do? He is only demanding this as retaliation for the child support he was literally forced to pay yesterday. Because of his anger I fear for my son's safety. Let me add that while I was pregnant with my son my ex fractured my jaw because I told him I did not want to eat dinner. He then forced me to eat dinner anyhow. I had his crazy *** arrested, and he was convicted of 4 counts of DV Assault, all felonies. So, given his propensity to violent outbursts when angered, and the fact that he is clearly enraged, I do not want my baby alone with him.
On short notice, what can I legally do? I have an appointment with a lawyer for Monday, but my ex wants to pick up on Friday. What steps can I legally take to prevent this?Ex has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
Tell him that you have plans already, and that he did not give you enough notice.
Call your divorce attorney, and take it in-front of a judge. What ever you do, do not tell your ex he will not be able to see your son, make excuses until you go to court.
I am not sure what the court will rule, but better to be civil and take it to court.
Good luck
does it state in your divorce paper that he is allowed visitation? if it does then for now you need to let him visit and go back to court and try to get it modified based on the past physical violence. If he does not have court ordered visitation then tell him to shove it. Paying support does not mean you automatically get visitation.Ex has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
Common sense answer
1. Don't let him see the kid
2. go to court with all the statements of experts and block his visitation and then have his parental rights removed for cause.
he has to give you notice ahead of time if wants to visit.. also he needs to abide by his diet..
you should take all this proof of what he has done and talk to your lawyer and have certain things added to visitation like specified times and instructions for his dietEx has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
There is no general right to visitation. The right to visitation is specific to each family and is spelled out in the divorce decree. It is quite separate from child support payments. If there is no order allowing visitation, then it is up to him to petition the court to allow it. If there is an order and you don't like it, it is up to you to petition the court to change it.english to arabic translation new cd releases
Wel my ex proved that he could make payments because in order to avoid jail, he rushed right over the the office with cash. No, he is pissed. He called last night at 11pm demanding a visit with my son for this weekend. He has not seen my son is months. We had repeatedly contacted him for months inquiring upon his intentions. No response. Back in January he cancelled a visit because I wold not give him money or buy groceries for the weekend. In January he also on 2 occasions set a visit time and place for pick up, then did not show. My husband had driven my son to the location, waited 45 minutes for him to show, only to get a call from this man saying "ha ha how do you like to be ****** with". He stated that he did this to prove that he was in "control" of my son, not us. My son is diagnosed with having an Autistic disorder (PDD-NOS) and needs structure. Every one of his stunts has hurt my son. My ex refuses to appropriately educate himself on my son's diagnosis. He took 4 visits in the last 18mos, the last one being months ago. When my son returned he was filthy, and he screamed for 3 hours non stop. He was physically fine, but very very upset. It took me 3 hours of rocking him to get him to calm down. It was the most heartwrenching thing I have ever witnessed.
My son is also on a GFCF diet, and my ex refuses to adhere to it, citing the foods are too expensive. He has over the last year on three occasions offered to sign over his rights if we pay him money.
Bottom line, he is still not prepared to care for this child. His behavior has been childish, and I am terrified at the prospect of him being alone with him. On the short term, what can I do? He is only demanding this as retaliation for the child support he was literally forced to pay yesterday. Because of his anger I fear for my son's safety. Let me add that while I was pregnant with my son my ex fractured my jaw because I told him I did not want to eat dinner. He then forced me to eat dinner anyhow. I had his crazy *** arrested, and he was convicted of 4 counts of DV Assault, all felonies. So, given his propensity to violent outbursts when angered, and the fact that he is clearly enraged, I do not want my baby alone with him.
On short notice, what can I legally do? I have an appointment with a lawyer for Monday, but my ex wants to pick up on Friday. What steps can I legally take to prevent this?Ex has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
Tell him that you have plans already, and that he did not give you enough notice.
Call your divorce attorney, and take it in-front of a judge. What ever you do, do not tell your ex he will not be able to see your son, make excuses until you go to court.
I am not sure what the court will rule, but better to be civil and take it to court.
Good luck
does it state in your divorce paper that he is allowed visitation? if it does then for now you need to let him visit and go back to court and try to get it modified based on the past physical violence. If he does not have court ordered visitation then tell him to shove it. Paying support does not mean you automatically get visitation.Ex has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
Common sense answer
1. Don't let him see the kid
2. go to court with all the statements of experts and block his visitation and then have his parental rights removed for cause.
he has to give you notice ahead of time if wants to visit.. also he needs to abide by his diet..
you should take all this proof of what he has done and talk to your lawyer and have certain things added to visitation like specified times and instructions for his dietEx has demanded a visit with my son..please read?
There is no general right to visitation. The right to visitation is specific to each family and is spelled out in the divorce decree. It is quite separate from child support payments. If there is no order allowing visitation, then it is up to him to petition the court to allow it. If there is an order and you don't like it, it is up to you to petition the court to change it.
To stay or to go. . . Puertor Rico vs. Florida?
I do not like the winter and my children are always sick during the winter months, so I have decided to relocate to either Polk County, Florida or Humacao, Puerto Rico. My problem is that I want the best for my children (ages 7 %26amp; 12 - the 12 y.o. in on the autism spectrum PDD-NOS). I will begin next year to look for a teaching job. Either place, I will work as an English teacher.
I need your input about either place: positive and negative experiences if any that a relative, friend, or yourself may have experienced. For example: neighborhood, schools, avg income, etc.
Any information will be greatly appreciated. Thank you !To stay or to go. . . Puertor Rico vs. Florida?
~ Well I lived temporarily (8 months) in Lakeland, Fl. My mom lives in Lake Wales, Fl. I had a few friends in Haines City and worked in Davenport. That is most of Polk County. I have been through all of the smaller areas as well, Avon Park, Sebring, Winter Haven and they are all about the same, Lakeland is the biggest.
In my opinion, I couldn't wait to get the heck out of there. I hated it!
I don't know where you are coming from, what you like and don't like so it may work for you, it may not.
I'm not a religious person and Polk County is very Baptist! I'm not a redneck and Polk County is very southern, good ole boy mentality. I don't like Central Florida and all the citrus trees. The schools are not so good and the housing market is less than appealing. My husband and I are from the coast of Florida and have always been near the beach so Central Florida was a huge change for us. We prefer the Florida Beach Life with upscale living, dining and shopping. That is NOT Central Florida. It is however very relaxed with most of the traffic in Lakeland and Winter Haven. Haines City is very heavy Mexican/Spanish speaking area. Lakeland is very family oriented feeling with events, a very nice clean downtown and lots of lakes. It is not a bad place at all, you don't feel concerned about crime in Lakeland; Winter Haven and Haines City is a little more questionable. If I were to move back to Polk County I would ONLY live in Lakeland as the rest of the surrounding areas are not as nice in comparison.
If you go to Lakeland, the best tip I can give you is to stay on the South side of Lakeland (everything there is North and South it is a mirror image) however, South side is nicer, has more money, more educated and has quality people. The North side is very redneck, has some KKK memebers and has more land with mobile homes. Carillon Lakes has nice homes in a gated community that is very affordable. Lakeland has a new shopping center with theater that is very nice on Hardon called Lake Side Village.
I have had friends that visited San Juan and just say how much of a city it is, more than they thought, however I have never been there.To stay or to go. . . Puertor Rico vs. Florida?
I live in Orlando, FL right now. Personally, I believe you should bring them to Florida.
1: They have somewhere to go for their summer vacations (Disney, Universal, Seaworld, Islands of Adventures)
2: I think it will be a lot safer.
3: If they are Americans, you want to keep them on this side so that they can continue dominating the English and still manage to speak spanish because of the amount of Latin Speakers here. In Puerto Rico, they might lose their English.
4: It is going to be hotter here.
5: Travelling will be less expensive as you have an option of going by car or plane.
6: There are better schools here.
I really hope this helps!
I need your input about either place: positive and negative experiences if any that a relative, friend, or yourself may have experienced. For example: neighborhood, schools, avg income, etc.
Any information will be greatly appreciated. Thank you !To stay or to go. . . Puertor Rico vs. Florida?
~ Well I lived temporarily (8 months) in Lakeland, Fl. My mom lives in Lake Wales, Fl. I had a few friends in Haines City and worked in Davenport. That is most of Polk County. I have been through all of the smaller areas as well, Avon Park, Sebring, Winter Haven and they are all about the same, Lakeland is the biggest.
In my opinion, I couldn't wait to get the heck out of there. I hated it!
I don't know where you are coming from, what you like and don't like so it may work for you, it may not.
I'm not a religious person and Polk County is very Baptist! I'm not a redneck and Polk County is very southern, good ole boy mentality. I don't like Central Florida and all the citrus trees. The schools are not so good and the housing market is less than appealing. My husband and I are from the coast of Florida and have always been near the beach so Central Florida was a huge change for us. We prefer the Florida Beach Life with upscale living, dining and shopping. That is NOT Central Florida. It is however very relaxed with most of the traffic in Lakeland and Winter Haven. Haines City is very heavy Mexican/Spanish speaking area. Lakeland is very family oriented feeling with events, a very nice clean downtown and lots of lakes. It is not a bad place at all, you don't feel concerned about crime in Lakeland; Winter Haven and Haines City is a little more questionable. If I were to move back to Polk County I would ONLY live in Lakeland as the rest of the surrounding areas are not as nice in comparison.
If you go to Lakeland, the best tip I can give you is to stay on the South side of Lakeland (everything there is North and South it is a mirror image) however, South side is nicer, has more money, more educated and has quality people. The North side is very redneck, has some KKK memebers and has more land with mobile homes. Carillon Lakes has nice homes in a gated community that is very affordable. Lakeland has a new shopping center with theater that is very nice on Hardon called Lake Side Village.
I have had friends that visited San Juan and just say how much of a city it is, more than they thought, however I have never been there.To stay or to go. . . Puertor Rico vs. Florida?
I live in Orlando, FL right now. Personally, I believe you should bring them to Florida.
1: They have somewhere to go for their summer vacations (Disney, Universal, Seaworld, Islands of Adventures)
2: I think it will be a lot safer.
3: If they are Americans, you want to keep them on this side so that they can continue dominating the English and still manage to speak spanish because of the amount of Latin Speakers here. In Puerto Rico, they might lose their English.
4: It is going to be hotter here.
5: Travelling will be less expensive as you have an option of going by car or plane.
6: There are better schools here.
I really hope this helps!
Debating between relocating to Puerto Rico and Florida, please help?!?
I do not like the winter and my children are always sick during the winter months, so I have decided to relocate to either Polk County, Florida or Humacao, Puerto Rico. My problem is that I want the best for my children (ages 7 %26amp; 12 - the 12 y.o. in on the autism spectrum PDD-NOS). I will begin next year to look for a teaching job. Either place, I will work as an English teacher.
I need your input about either place: positive and negative experiences if any that a relative, friend, or yourself may have experienced. For example: neighborhood, schools, avg income, etc.
Any information will be greatly appreciated. Thank you !Debating between relocating to Puerto Rico and Florida, please help?!?
I live in Miami, Florida. Wouldn't recommend Miami, but other parts of Florida are nice for raising children.
As for your teaching job, Florida has a high demand for teachers so you should not have any trouble.
Florida is all in all a nice place. The weather is beautiful. Teachers make like 40k/yr.
Hope this helps.
I need your input about either place: positive and negative experiences if any that a relative, friend, or yourself may have experienced. For example: neighborhood, schools, avg income, etc.
Any information will be greatly appreciated. Thank you !Debating between relocating to Puerto Rico and Florida, please help?!?
I live in Miami, Florida. Wouldn't recommend Miami, but other parts of Florida are nice for raising children.
As for your teaching job, Florida has a high demand for teachers so you should not have any trouble.
Florida is all in all a nice place. The weather is beautiful. Teachers make like 40k/yr.
Hope this helps.
I have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
Hi, I have a couple of questions. My child is about to go through testing for an Autism spectrum disorder called PDD-NOS which we are almost positive he has.
his name is Noah and he's 5 years old.
We have been going through all different kinds of testing and he's already almost been misdiagnosed with A.D.H.D once. He has a receptive language delay and often has a hard time socializing.
Anyway, my first question - A lot of the people in our family do not believe what so ever that there is anything there, they don't see him everyday and they are constantly on our backs that there isnt anything wrong that he's just a late bloomer, and boys always grow slower rates than girls.. ect.
I am getting frusterated, I don't know how to explain to them when he does get the diagnosis. what do I say?
have any of you had the same problem?
my other question was how old was your child when they got their diagnosis?
Thank you!I have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
Hi Hun..My twin son Thomas is nine now and he has severe autism he is also non verbal, luckily sounds like your son is has it pretty mild, i say this because my son was diagnosed with autism at aged three, he wasn't talking would not play with anyone and wouldn't give eye contact, we all knew that Thomas wasn't doing things he should and all my family included, Thomas attends a special school and his still in nappies, you have to come to terms with it before you worry about your family and it does take a while, your family won't understand nor will you until you know after the assessment what your dealing with, and you will need your family support, i have added a link to my videos on youtube they show Thomas and what he is like ..if you need to talk email me anytimeI have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
you will ALWAYs have people judge you- even family. they will blame your parenting. they will tell you how to "fix" the problem. you are going to have to develop a thick skin and do what's best for Noah. it will suck, and you will at times feel abandoned. you have to do what's best for him no matter what others say. and trust me, they WILL tell you what they think you need to know.I have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
My son was diagnosed at age five. Our relatives said "there's nothing wrong with him a good spanking wouldn't cure" (they disapprove of our discipline methods and thought that was the problem). Just tell them firmly that you are the one around him and you think he may have it, but that he's getting tested so just wait and see if he does.
I agree with others. There will always be people that will judge you. Our parents grew up in the age of "just give them a good lickin' and they'll straighten up". It's tough to change.
It took my mom a while to understand Aspergers. Once she read up on it, she saw the signs in my son and now she can see it in other kids as well. She's done a complete 180.
Some will never change though. You either put up with it or stay away from those people.
My son was 9 before we got the proper dx. He was misdiagnosed with ADD for a couple years before that.
his name is Noah and he's 5 years old.
We have been going through all different kinds of testing and he's already almost been misdiagnosed with A.D.H.D once. He has a receptive language delay and often has a hard time socializing.
Anyway, my first question - A lot of the people in our family do not believe what so ever that there is anything there, they don't see him everyday and they are constantly on our backs that there isnt anything wrong that he's just a late bloomer, and boys always grow slower rates than girls.. ect.
I am getting frusterated, I don't know how to explain to them when he does get the diagnosis. what do I say?
have any of you had the same problem?
my other question was how old was your child when they got their diagnosis?
Thank you!I have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
Hi Hun..My twin son Thomas is nine now and he has severe autism he is also non verbal, luckily sounds like your son is has it pretty mild, i say this because my son was diagnosed with autism at aged three, he wasn't talking would not play with anyone and wouldn't give eye contact, we all knew that Thomas wasn't doing things he should and all my family included, Thomas attends a special school and his still in nappies, you have to come to terms with it before you worry about your family and it does take a while, your family won't understand nor will you until you know after the assessment what your dealing with, and you will need your family support, i have added a link to my videos on youtube they show Thomas and what he is like ..if you need to talk email me anytimeI have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
you will ALWAYs have people judge you- even family. they will blame your parenting. they will tell you how to "fix" the problem. you are going to have to develop a thick skin and do what's best for Noah. it will suck, and you will at times feel abandoned. you have to do what's best for him no matter what others say. and trust me, they WILL tell you what they think you need to know.I have questions for parents of autistic childeren.?
My son was diagnosed at age five. Our relatives said "there's nothing wrong with him a good spanking wouldn't cure" (they disapprove of our discipline methods and thought that was the problem). Just tell them firmly that you are the one around him and you think he may have it, but that he's getting tested so just wait and see if he does.
I agree with others. There will always be people that will judge you. Our parents grew up in the age of "just give them a good lickin' and they'll straighten up". It's tough to change.
It took my mom a while to understand Aspergers. Once she read up on it, she saw the signs in my son and now she can see it in other kids as well. She's done a complete 180.
Some will never change though. You either put up with it or stay away from those people.
My son was 9 before we got the proper dx. He was misdiagnosed with ADD for a couple years before that.
I rather have cancel than autism?
I have Pdd-Nos and ADD but I think cancel victims have it better than kids with autism, they do not have to worry about social problems, commutation problems, or knowing for the rest of your life that you will always have a lack of social skills and this leads to depression. People are always saying cancel so bad and other stuff but really cancel has an end and autism doesn't and if you do not believe me go for week without talking or being social!
Social disorder is the worst thing everyI rather have cancel than autism?
Do you mean cancer? If you do, cancer is much worse than autism. Kids with severe autism don't necessarily know what's going on around them socially (or don't care). Cancer is a disease that you can die from. Imagine being a totally healthy person with a social life and friends, then being diagnosed with cancer and have to endure many tests and examinations, with the looming horror that you might die. You said "cancer has an end", but it doesn't work that way. A patient can be treated, but the treatment might not work. In some cases, the end will be death. In my opinion, cancer is much worse than autism. If you think differently, then that's fine.
Social disorder is the worst thing everyI rather have cancel than autism?
Do you mean cancer? If you do, cancer is much worse than autism. Kids with severe autism don't necessarily know what's going on around them socially (or don't care). Cancer is a disease that you can die from. Imagine being a totally healthy person with a social life and friends, then being diagnosed with cancer and have to endure many tests and examinations, with the looming horror that you might die. You said "cancer has an end", but it doesn't work that way. A patient can be treated, but the treatment might not work. In some cases, the end will be death. In my opinion, cancer is much worse than autism. If you think differently, then that's fine.
Chances of someone inheriting schizophrenia from their parents?
My mom has schizophrenia, I never saw her being paranoid but it was bad when I was young and I don't remember anything. I'm just 14, my sister is at her 20's. What are my chances of getting schizophrenia. I think I am mildly autistic (like the pdd-nos type) and I don't really trust people so I guess you can call me paranoid as well but not much. I can tell reality from imagination but last year my mom found out my dad was cheating and things got pretty bad between them, they started fighting a lot and I became depressed. And then I used to talk to some imaginary characters, it really helped because I don't really talk to REAL people about my problems. I could tell them apart from reality and I didn't even see them there I just pretended they were there but I am pretty good at "pretending" so even though I knew they weren't there I had no problem talking to them and stuff. I guess you can say that they were the anima/animus type. I didn't say anything out loud I just moved my lips (for both them and me) and changed my facial expressions. I don't see them anymore but I like to pretend stuff. I imagine different situations all the time. I am a bit worried and I'm really rooting for schizoid..
What are my or my sister's (22 years old) chances of inheriting schizophrenia from our mom?
and I hope I posted this in the right categoryChances of someone inheriting schizophrenia from their parents?
Autism is a form of neurology (commonly called a disability) that one is born with. It has a strong genetic component and runs in families, mostly on the male side. Fathers, sons, and brothers are more likely to have autism if one of the others do.
Schizophrenia is not considered a neurological disability; it is classified as a mental disease. It usually occurs after childhood. It has more to do with chemical imbalances in the brain, abuse, or traumatic brain injury than with the basic wiring of the nerves that we are born with. Thus, the genetic component for schizophrenia is much more limited than in autism. However, there may be family related matters that contribute to a second family member developing it due to common environmental issues, such as lifestyle, abuse, or trauma.
Note:
Historically, these diagnoses were lumped together. Even today, there are two major movements ongoing that are respectively promoting the merging of autism and Aspergers diagnoses as one condition (for clinical convenience) and renaming autism as Childhood Schizophrenia. Neither of these movements have their foundation in genetic research or neuroscience. In my professional opinion, both these movements are more damaging than beneficial to the public. Moreover, they confuse again the understanding of the distinctiveness of autism and schizophrenia by equating neurological disabilities with mental diseases.pro comp duplicolor
What are my or my sister's (22 years old) chances of inheriting schizophrenia from our mom?
and I hope I posted this in the right categoryChances of someone inheriting schizophrenia from their parents?
Autism is a form of neurology (commonly called a disability) that one is born with. It has a strong genetic component and runs in families, mostly on the male side. Fathers, sons, and brothers are more likely to have autism if one of the others do.
Schizophrenia is not considered a neurological disability; it is classified as a mental disease. It usually occurs after childhood. It has more to do with chemical imbalances in the brain, abuse, or traumatic brain injury than with the basic wiring of the nerves that we are born with. Thus, the genetic component for schizophrenia is much more limited than in autism. However, there may be family related matters that contribute to a second family member developing it due to common environmental issues, such as lifestyle, abuse, or trauma.
Note:
Historically, these diagnoses were lumped together. Even today, there are two major movements ongoing that are respectively promoting the merging of autism and Aspergers diagnoses as one condition (for clinical convenience) and renaming autism as Childhood Schizophrenia. Neither of these movements have their foundation in genetic research or neuroscience. In my professional opinion, both these movements are more damaging than beneficial to the public. Moreover, they confuse again the understanding of the distinctiveness of autism and schizophrenia by equating neurological disabilities with mental diseases.
Finally having my second child. Recommendations for a 2nd time mom w/special needs child?
I've got a 7 (almost 8) year old son with HFA (High Functioning Autism/PDD-NOS). I'm pregnant with a baby girl. I know that many things have changed over the last 8 years. IE: no more drop sided cribs etc. I have purchased several things like: 3 Miracle Blankets, electric swing, Dr. Brown's Glass Bottles w/sleeves, many extra parts for the bottles, drying rack, crib w/no drop sides, sheets, mesh bumpers, Angel Care Monitoring System, onesies, pants, shirts.
I'm thinking about cloth diapering, but I don't know if I can find a daycare provider willing to work with me on this. Please note: I will NOT be breast feeding due to medical issues. And YES my son is excited to have a little sister.
Anyone have any recommendations for me?Finally having my second child. Recommendations for a 2nd time mom w/special needs child?
One thing that has not changed is that babies need to be held and loved. All the monitoring systems, swings, etc do not take the place of human contact but I know you are aware of that. You are taking on a huge challenge but noticing how you wrote here about what you need and your already procuring the good things, Im sure you will be successful. I imagine you already have planned to protect your daughter from your son since it will be such a huge intrusion for him. I hope you have a lot of time off before she is in day care.CongratulationsFinally having my second child. Recommendations for a 2nd time mom w/special needs child?
I would invest in an excellent baby carrier or wrap so that you can carry the baby and have your hands free for your older child. If you have a 2-story house, you might want to have areas for sleeping and changing on the main floor to reduce your time getting to the baby.
I'm thinking about cloth diapering, but I don't know if I can find a daycare provider willing to work with me on this. Please note: I will NOT be breast feeding due to medical issues. And YES my son is excited to have a little sister.
Anyone have any recommendations for me?Finally having my second child. Recommendations for a 2nd time mom w/special needs child?
One thing that has not changed is that babies need to be held and loved. All the monitoring systems, swings, etc do not take the place of human contact but I know you are aware of that. You are taking on a huge challenge but noticing how you wrote here about what you need and your already procuring the good things, Im sure you will be successful. I imagine you already have planned to protect your daughter from your son since it will be such a huge intrusion for him. I hope you have a lot of time off before she is in day care.CongratulationsFinally having my second child. Recommendations for a 2nd time mom w/special needs child?
I would invest in an excellent baby carrier or wrap so that you can carry the baby and have your hands free for your older child. If you have a 2-story house, you might want to have areas for sleeping and changing on the main floor to reduce your time getting to the baby.
Mental health please help?
Hello, i am a 18 year old male, in 11th grade. I am in a special ed program called "Matrix". I have been evaluated by doctors,psychiatric, ect. They tend to believe i have PDD-NOS, some Autism, and Asburgers syndrom. However i would like a second option, so i have come here to ask. What i have been evaluated for these disorders/disease consist of me :
1. Obsessions
- I have obsessions of rubbling my neck from side-side then to the middle. I may do it once - as much as 8-10 times. I tend to do that several times a day 3-10 times. I wash my hands quite often.
-I dont like people to touch my stuff. If it is touched i feel it is destroyed, and is no-good even though the object is fine, i believe it is not the same before it was touched, if i touch it i am fine, as long as i watched my hands, but if someone washes theirs it doesnt even matter i wont allow it.
- I have a VERY BIG problem at the moment, i am constantly biting my skin between my finer nails from side-side.And biting my finger nails. Once i get skin or a nail sticking out and i cannot get it because it is to deep to reach, i will continue trying to the death, i will bleed, throb, get exhusted, sweating all that, and at times i can stand in the bathroom trying to get that annoying skin peice pulled off for up to 20 minutes strait, it felt as it was maybe 5-7 minutes but nowhere near 20minutes!
- I am smart as far as school subjects, learning how our world works, but when it comes to simple things like , taking a bath, or cleaning my messes, using the bathroom or cleaning up my waist from my anus. read down
I use a towel to clean my self up after going number 2 because if i use toilet paper i cannot clean my self well enough and i will get it all inside my underwear. i cant seem to pee right into the toilet i aim and all but it seems to somehow get to the floor. If i hear something or do research on something about my health or someone eles health i will get depressed or if i think something will happen to me i get worried even if someone tells me i will ok. i dont have any friends, i have peers/aqatinses, but no acutal friends, and i havent for a long time when i do make a friend i usaul lose them/ drive them off within a few weeks or so. I get of rage at times if i dont get my way like yelling, bad language, physical contact, stalking my parents if they wont do something for me. or even tantrums like a little kid, and am now 18. i will cry as well, i like to hold onto things like the other night i went with my dad to get food and i had to bring a pokemon game just to look at the box on the way their. I will listen to one song for hours not kidding. I have a very low amount of music i like , and the ones i do like i cant seem to listen to more than 5 songs in a day, because if i play a song on that day that sounds good, i will continue to let it play over and over. I have an obession for writting usernames like computer game usernames like runescape over and over. then i will even write goals i want to make on the game for example : 100million gold- 120million gold by June 5, 2011. or something like that or i will write down my current wealth and when i write this down it feels good to write it out i like it, and then i never even use the paper that i wrote, i just usaual leave it or ill throw it away or something. I have a huge obsession i mean HUGE , GIGANTIC, MASSIVE obsession for numbers , when i play a computer game that involves selling and buying. i buy and sell virtual items in the game for profits to make game gold. and when i do this i know that am making money ethier way but i like to keep track of how much i spend on it and how much i sold for and how much profit. and i will do it with everything i sell or buy. i have a huge stack of lined paper where i filled the whole page with subtraction and math problems that i solved when buying and selling items. i also discovered the other day in math class i was doing part of my math with subtraction and addition and i was like adding 7 + 8 + 4 and i keep figuring it out even though i knew i had the right answer i didnt think it was correct and was worried about getting it wrong so i keep adding it over and over till i felt what i added was correct event though i can easily add it in my head. anyway with all that has been said can you personal try to evalauted what you personaly think i may have? thanksMental health please help?
don't worry about itMental health please help?
I see a lot of your autism at work here but there is a marked problem with obsessive compulsive disorder.
Obviously, your obsessiveness makes you uncomfortable. You say so here.
And so, I believe that you need to see your doctor again about your diagnosis. Perhaps there is a good treatment for your obsessive compulsive features and once they are under control, you will feel better.
I wish you all the best.
Time to go back to your mental health provider. You are an adult now.
1. Obsessions
- I have obsessions of rubbling my neck from side-side then to the middle. I may do it once - as much as 8-10 times. I tend to do that several times a day 3-10 times. I wash my hands quite often.
-I dont like people to touch my stuff. If it is touched i feel it is destroyed, and is no-good even though the object is fine, i believe it is not the same before it was touched, if i touch it i am fine, as long as i watched my hands, but if someone washes theirs it doesnt even matter i wont allow it.
- I have a VERY BIG problem at the moment, i am constantly biting my skin between my finer nails from side-side.And biting my finger nails. Once i get skin or a nail sticking out and i cannot get it because it is to deep to reach, i will continue trying to the death, i will bleed, throb, get exhusted, sweating all that, and at times i can stand in the bathroom trying to get that annoying skin peice pulled off for up to 20 minutes strait, it felt as it was maybe 5-7 minutes but nowhere near 20minutes!
- I am smart as far as school subjects, learning how our world works, but when it comes to simple things like , taking a bath, or cleaning my messes, using the bathroom or cleaning up my waist from my anus. read down
I use a towel to clean my self up after going number 2 because if i use toilet paper i cannot clean my self well enough and i will get it all inside my underwear. i cant seem to pee right into the toilet i aim and all but it seems to somehow get to the floor. If i hear something or do research on something about my health or someone eles health i will get depressed or if i think something will happen to me i get worried even if someone tells me i will ok. i dont have any friends, i have peers/aqatinses, but no acutal friends, and i havent for a long time when i do make a friend i usaul lose them/ drive them off within a few weeks or so. I get of rage at times if i dont get my way like yelling, bad language, physical contact, stalking my parents if they wont do something for me. or even tantrums like a little kid, and am now 18. i will cry as well, i like to hold onto things like the other night i went with my dad to get food and i had to bring a pokemon game just to look at the box on the way their. I will listen to one song for hours not kidding. I have a very low amount of music i like , and the ones i do like i cant seem to listen to more than 5 songs in a day, because if i play a song on that day that sounds good, i will continue to let it play over and over. I have an obession for writting usernames like computer game usernames like runescape over and over. then i will even write goals i want to make on the game for example : 100million gold- 120million gold by June 5, 2011. or something like that or i will write down my current wealth and when i write this down it feels good to write it out i like it, and then i never even use the paper that i wrote, i just usaual leave it or ill throw it away or something. I have a huge obsession i mean HUGE , GIGANTIC, MASSIVE obsession for numbers , when i play a computer game that involves selling and buying. i buy and sell virtual items in the game for profits to make game gold. and when i do this i know that am making money ethier way but i like to keep track of how much i spend on it and how much i sold for and how much profit. and i will do it with everything i sell or buy. i have a huge stack of lined paper where i filled the whole page with subtraction and math problems that i solved when buying and selling items. i also discovered the other day in math class i was doing part of my math with subtraction and addition and i was like adding 7 + 8 + 4 and i keep figuring it out even though i knew i had the right answer i didnt think it was correct and was worried about getting it wrong so i keep adding it over and over till i felt what i added was correct event though i can easily add it in my head. anyway with all that has been said can you personal try to evalauted what you personaly think i may have? thanksMental health please help?
don't worry about itMental health please help?
I see a lot of your autism at work here but there is a marked problem with obsessive compulsive disorder.
Obviously, your obsessiveness makes you uncomfortable. You say so here.
And so, I believe that you need to see your doctor again about your diagnosis. Perhaps there is a good treatment for your obsessive compulsive features and once they are under control, you will feel better.
I wish you all the best.
Time to go back to your mental health provider. You are an adult now.
What developmental delay does my 4 year old have?
Right now, they are calling it LD (Learning disorder)/developmental delay. Here are his symptoms:
Language delay- receptive he is at 66percentile/ expressive he is at 14percentile.
difficult comprehending %26amp; talking about novel topics.
Lack of interest in other kids (doesn't know many peer's names), doesn't initiate play with them
Hard to get attention %26amp; short attention span unless it is one of his interests- transformers or TV
doesn't read social cues- gets in kids face's talks loudly %26amp; inappropriately
Abnormal reactions to sensory stimuli (warm is hot, plugs ears when loud noises even if noise is tolerable to other peers, hates people singing, doesn't like certain fabrics/or patterned prints
Clumsy %26amp; troubles with fine motor activities such as holding pencil correctly.
Becomes easily frustrated by certain tasks, says he can't do it, even if he hasn't tried.
very picky eater- and will go the whole day without eating unless you find an option he wants
likes hair combed one way- hates haircuts.
Does not like water on his face or clothes.
Does not like to get messy or dirty.
Very sensitive feelings- slightest reprimand will send him into a fit where he shuts down and curls up into a ball or 15 min-1hr.
is affectionate and cuddly to parents
doing average at meeting preschool curriculum. (knows letters, numbers, colors, shapes, etc)
Likes to play outside.
Scared of the dark, spiders, and swimming pools.
I have been doing reading about high functioning autsim, mutisystem developmental delay, and PDD-NOS...
Personally they all sound like the same thing to me. this is a good amount of his quirks/symptoms, but not all of them.
From these symptoms, what do you think his diagnosis would be?
he receives speech therapy and is in early childhood program. Are there any other services that could help... maybe with sensory problems, etc?
Please be as informative as possible. I have had troubles getting answers from his doctor and do not have many resources. I am a worried parent. Thanks.What developmental delay does my 4 year old have?
Was he exposed to any kind of violence in his home while growing up?
I know early childhood depression can really make things difficult for a student to learn.
I have seen adults with post traumatic stress disorder curl up in a ball.
That wasn't the best answer. I hope you look into SPD and typical versus atypical autism. A team of specialists is ideal and the out-of-sync book is helpful. Autistic characteristics overlap with other disorders. In the future, research might tell us the 'why' when all we have now is the behavior.
This sounds so much like what my son has. It isn't autism although many of the traits are similar. Look into Sensory Processing Disorder. A couple of good books are The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz and The Spirited Child by Mary Kurchinka.
My 4 yr old son has many of the symptoms you've described %26amp; I was wondering if you have found any answers. He is scheduled for a full developmental screening next month and I am worried. He is very sensitive to everything so maybe it could be a sensory disorder??
Your sons symptoms sound very similar to my son, and my son was just diagnosed with autism. Most doctors are the last place to go for help. My sons doctor sent me on a wild goose hunt to see what specialist will accept his insurance(most don't for autism). After 8 months of no help from his doctor, I found out about a place called Regional Center. I don't know what state you are in but if you are in California, try going there. I also recently found out about DAN(Defeat Autism Now) doctors. I know how hard it can be trying to get answers from a regular pediatrician, so you should really look into a DAN doctor who has more experience with children with autism.
the 3 terms multi system, hfa, pddnos are used interchangeably
multi system is a newer term
once doc would diagnosis it as number 1
teh next as number 2
the next as number 3
the best way is just to say 'autism spectrum disorder'
there are many kids who are on the line between 2 diagnosis..either HFA or aspergers, pdd or autism, etc
if it is autism spectrum or something similar...you want to look into ABA and Occupational Therapy..the OT will help with the sensory issues
I agree that he's probably on the autistic spectrum. Based on your description though, it seems like his biggest problem is sensory integration problems. There are things therapists can do to reduce his oversensitivity to those things. I think you'd use an occupational therapist for that. Ask the school (and keep harassing them until they do something - they legally have to pay for it if your son needs it). Try looking at this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Out-Sync-Child-Rec鈥?/a>
Given his speech delay, I'd be inclined to say he's more likely to have HFA than Asperger's, but it really does not matter. It could also be PDD-NOS if he does not quite meet the criteria for HFA/AS. I've never heard of Multisystem Developmental Delay, and it's not in the DSM either, so that seems like a pointless diagnosis.
From the sound of it I would think autism but I have only worked with students with disabilities for about five years and am going to school to become a special ed teacher. If you are having problems with the doctor then I would have him refer you to a specialist and also get other professional opinions second ones... autism can be similar to other disorders as well. Sorry but this is all the information I can give I do not want to steer you in the wrong direction, but if it is autism early intervention is best, you already have him in some great programs so this is good.
He is almost certainly on the ASD spectrum (Autism Spectrum Disorder). I'd be very surprised if it turned out to be something else, based on your descriptions. It could be asperger's syndrome (mild autism) but at 4 years old it might be too early to tell how severe it is. Autistic people often have 'scattered skills', which means they are really good at some things, and much below average in others. This also often involves a special interest (such as transformers) or series of special interests. Autism is a tricky thing to diagnose, because the way they do it is by observing behaviours over a period of time. There is a long list of 'tendencies' among autistic people, but most will only display a few. For example, some are much more sensitive to noise or light than others, or have different patterns of skills. If I were you, I would get him diagnosed - if possible by more than one person. If he is autistic they should be able to suggest what to do next in terms of education. But don't worry, I work with a little boy who has asperger's and he's a great kid - usually very happy and he makes he laugh every day with his cheeky grin! There are bad points to having autism, yes - but there a wonderful things about it too.
Would one of the people who gave me thumbs-down please explain why? What I said was helpful and said from experience, something most of you probably do not have!
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Language delay- receptive he is at 66percentile/ expressive he is at 14percentile.
difficult comprehending %26amp; talking about novel topics.
Lack of interest in other kids (doesn't know many peer's names), doesn't initiate play with them
Hard to get attention %26amp; short attention span unless it is one of his interests- transformers or TV
doesn't read social cues- gets in kids face's talks loudly %26amp; inappropriately
Abnormal reactions to sensory stimuli (warm is hot, plugs ears when loud noises even if noise is tolerable to other peers, hates people singing, doesn't like certain fabrics/or patterned prints
Clumsy %26amp; troubles with fine motor activities such as holding pencil correctly.
Becomes easily frustrated by certain tasks, says he can't do it, even if he hasn't tried.
very picky eater- and will go the whole day without eating unless you find an option he wants
likes hair combed one way- hates haircuts.
Does not like water on his face or clothes.
Does not like to get messy or dirty.
Very sensitive feelings- slightest reprimand will send him into a fit where he shuts down and curls up into a ball or 15 min-1hr.
is affectionate and cuddly to parents
doing average at meeting preschool curriculum. (knows letters, numbers, colors, shapes, etc)
Likes to play outside.
Scared of the dark, spiders, and swimming pools.
I have been doing reading about high functioning autsim, mutisystem developmental delay, and PDD-NOS...
Personally they all sound like the same thing to me. this is a good amount of his quirks/symptoms, but not all of them.
From these symptoms, what do you think his diagnosis would be?
he receives speech therapy and is in early childhood program. Are there any other services that could help... maybe with sensory problems, etc?
Please be as informative as possible. I have had troubles getting answers from his doctor and do not have many resources. I am a worried parent. Thanks.What developmental delay does my 4 year old have?
Was he exposed to any kind of violence in his home while growing up?
I know early childhood depression can really make things difficult for a student to learn.
I have seen adults with post traumatic stress disorder curl up in a ball.
That wasn't the best answer. I hope you look into SPD and typical versus atypical autism. A team of specialists is ideal and the out-of-sync book is helpful. Autistic characteristics overlap with other disorders. In the future, research might tell us the 'why' when all we have now is the behavior.
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What developmental delay does my 4 year old have?This sounds so much like what my son has. It isn't autism although many of the traits are similar. Look into Sensory Processing Disorder. A couple of good books are The Out of Sync Child by Carol Kranowitz and The Spirited Child by Mary Kurchinka.
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My 4 yr old son has many of the symptoms you've described %26amp; I was wondering if you have found any answers. He is scheduled for a full developmental screening next month and I am worried. He is very sensitive to everything so maybe it could be a sensory disorder??
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What developmental delay does my 4 year old have?Your sons symptoms sound very similar to my son, and my son was just diagnosed with autism. Most doctors are the last place to go for help. My sons doctor sent me on a wild goose hunt to see what specialist will accept his insurance(most don't for autism). After 8 months of no help from his doctor, I found out about a place called Regional Center. I don't know what state you are in but if you are in California, try going there. I also recently found out about DAN(Defeat Autism Now) doctors. I know how hard it can be trying to get answers from a regular pediatrician, so you should really look into a DAN doctor who has more experience with children with autism.
the 3 terms multi system, hfa, pddnos are used interchangeably
multi system is a newer term
once doc would diagnosis it as number 1
teh next as number 2
the next as number 3
the best way is just to say 'autism spectrum disorder'
there are many kids who are on the line between 2 diagnosis..either HFA or aspergers, pdd or autism, etc
if it is autism spectrum or something similar...you want to look into ABA and Occupational Therapy..the OT will help with the sensory issues
I agree that he's probably on the autistic spectrum. Based on your description though, it seems like his biggest problem is sensory integration problems. There are things therapists can do to reduce his oversensitivity to those things. I think you'd use an occupational therapist for that. Ask the school (and keep harassing them until they do something - they legally have to pay for it if your son needs it). Try looking at this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Out-Sync-Child-Rec鈥?/a>
Given his speech delay, I'd be inclined to say he's more likely to have HFA than Asperger's, but it really does not matter. It could also be PDD-NOS if he does not quite meet the criteria for HFA/AS. I've never heard of Multisystem Developmental Delay, and it's not in the DSM either, so that seems like a pointless diagnosis.
From the sound of it I would think autism but I have only worked with students with disabilities for about five years and am going to school to become a special ed teacher. If you are having problems with the doctor then I would have him refer you to a specialist and also get other professional opinions second ones... autism can be similar to other disorders as well. Sorry but this is all the information I can give I do not want to steer you in the wrong direction, but if it is autism early intervention is best, you already have him in some great programs so this is good.
He is almost certainly on the ASD spectrum (Autism Spectrum Disorder). I'd be very surprised if it turned out to be something else, based on your descriptions. It could be asperger's syndrome (mild autism) but at 4 years old it might be too early to tell how severe it is. Autistic people often have 'scattered skills', which means they are really good at some things, and much below average in others. This also often involves a special interest (such as transformers) or series of special interests. Autism is a tricky thing to diagnose, because the way they do it is by observing behaviours over a period of time. There is a long list of 'tendencies' among autistic people, but most will only display a few. For example, some are much more sensitive to noise or light than others, or have different patterns of skills. If I were you, I would get him diagnosed - if possible by more than one person. If he is autistic they should be able to suggest what to do next in terms of education. But don't worry, I work with a little boy who has asperger's and he's a great kid - usually very happy and he makes he laugh every day with his cheeky grin! There are bad points to having autism, yes - but there a wonderful things about it too.
Would one of the people who gave me thumbs-down please explain why? What I said was helpful and said from experience, something most of you probably do not have!
http://www.washington.edu/doit/Faculty/S鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disability
http://kidshealth.org/
http://www.teachervision.fen.com/learnin鈥?/a>
http://www.ncpamd.com/books.htm
http://www.bridges4kids.org/Kids-Teens.h鈥?/a>
http://www.cvscaremarkallkidscan.com/abo鈥?/a>
HELP with an Autistic child!!!!?
I need help! I watch my sister and brother full time, my sister is almost 4 and she was diagnosed PDD-NOS the doctors told us NOTHING about what this entails and from what ive found out this is autism (?) I dont know where to go with her, i walk on eggshells all day, the slightest thing wrong can send her into an hour long tantrum of kicking the doors, and spinning around on the floor, im terrified shes gunna hurt herself! We live in the Charlotte area, and I cant really find anything out about what we can do to help her, the local school system has a class, we've taken her to it, its not worth the effort, to put it simply it sucked....help!HELP with an Autistic child!!!!?
Pervasive Development Disorder is on the autism spectrum and is usually not considered to be as severe as autism. I worked for an early intervention program for 4 years in SC, and we sometimes had children on our program that had moved there from NC. I remember that many of them were involved in a program called TEACCH in NC. Here is a website about the program. Maybe you could contact them, and they could direct you. Good luck!
http://www.teacch.com/
Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS) is one of the pervasive developmental disorders and autism spectrum disorders.
PDD-NOS is a diagnosis for people who are well-described by the "PDD" label, but can't be categorized by any other disorder. It is usually milder than autism and has similar symptoms to autism, with some symptoms present, and others absent.[1] The boundaries between PDD-NOS and non-autistic conditions are not fully resolved.[2]
I would google a doctor in the Charlotte area who specializes in ASD and get help from a professional. Good luck.HELP with an Autistic child!!!!?
treat her lyk a normal child give her what she wants when its safe but be strict if she kicks and has a tantrum put her in time out and then tell her what she did was wrong good luck!
you have to get to the child into an Early Intervention program ASAP . This is the only way to make sure the child is in a setting that benefits him/ her and is prepared for the issues that included in PDD. Look into support groups which can link you up with assistance in your community. Also contact local hospitals and find out programs and support groups available. With the right help you can limit some of the disruptive behaviors
good luckHELP with an Autistic child!!!!?
Here are a few sites to check out. Write a list of what you want to know, weather it is just info on the diagnosis, or what to do with the raging tantrums. Then hit these sites to get answers. Some of these sites will also list specialists in your area. see below for more:
www.supportworks.org
autism.meetup.com
charlotteparent.com
google: Autism Society of North Carolina
or
www.asncmeck.org
These are just a few. I have a child with aspergers, and it can be no fun at all. On the other hand, there are many things you can do to make your day and hers a whole lot easier. check my profile and email me if you get time.
good luck
Pervasive Development Disorder is on the autism spectrum and is usually not considered to be as severe as autism. I worked for an early intervention program for 4 years in SC, and we sometimes had children on our program that had moved there from NC. I remember that many of them were involved in a program called TEACCH in NC. Here is a website about the program. Maybe you could contact them, and they could direct you. Good luck!
http://www.teacch.com/
Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS) is one of the pervasive developmental disorders and autism spectrum disorders.
PDD-NOS is a diagnosis for people who are well-described by the "PDD" label, but can't be categorized by any other disorder. It is usually milder than autism and has similar symptoms to autism, with some symptoms present, and others absent.[1] The boundaries between PDD-NOS and non-autistic conditions are not fully resolved.[2]
I would google a doctor in the Charlotte area who specializes in ASD and get help from a professional. Good luck.HELP with an Autistic child!!!!?
treat her lyk a normal child give her what she wants when its safe but be strict if she kicks and has a tantrum put her in time out and then tell her what she did was wrong good luck!
you have to get to the child into an Early Intervention program ASAP . This is the only way to make sure the child is in a setting that benefits him/ her and is prepared for the issues that included in PDD. Look into support groups which can link you up with assistance in your community. Also contact local hospitals and find out programs and support groups available. With the right help you can limit some of the disruptive behaviors
good luckHELP with an Autistic child!!!!?
Here are a few sites to check out. Write a list of what you want to know, weather it is just info on the diagnosis, or what to do with the raging tantrums. Then hit these sites to get answers. Some of these sites will also list specialists in your area. see below for more:
www.supportworks.org
autism.meetup.com
charlotteparent.com
google: Autism Society of North Carolina
or
www.asncmeck.org
These are just a few. I have a child with aspergers, and it can be no fun at all. On the other hand, there are many things you can do to make your day and hers a whole lot easier. check my profile and email me if you get time.
good luck
How can my husband and i agree on discipline for our 5 yr old?
I have a 3 yr old and a 5 yr old. My 5 yr old is high functioning autistic or PDD-nos. He can talk but he still has tantrums, is very emotional, gets upset when he can finish his sentences. Sometimes he can get really hyper. My husband works 50+ hrs a week and Im home all the time. When im home with the kids i dont yell as much as when my husband is home. I admit i am more laid back than my husband but im home all the time and if something works for me then i dont see why i should change it. Im the one whos done all the research for my sons condition. Sometimes my son cant help what hes doing and my husband wants me to put him in timeout all the time but i dont think it works if its all the time. I just dont know what to do . Its putting a strain on our marriage. any advice??How can my husband and i agree on discipline for our 5 yr old?
Tell your husband to do some research of his own. He is also the parent so he needs to know what is going on just as much as you do. Then once he understands what is happening with his son it might be easier for you two to come up with an agreement.barometer ski doo
Tell your husband to do some research of his own. He is also the parent so he needs to know what is going on just as much as you do. Then once he understands what is happening with his son it might be easier for you two to come up with an agreement.
Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
Okay... the school succeeded in pissing me off this morning. When I dropped Elijah off at his school this morning his 1:1 aid told me she was a little upset that all the kindergarteners at the K-2 school up the hill went on a field trip yesterday to an animal farm. She did not get notified of this trip and neither did I. She has spoken to the SPED director several times about including Elijah in trips, performances, etc. with his peers. Is this legal? From my understanding it seems that it might be a violation of Section 504 because he was excluded do to his placement which is a result of his disabilities (PDD-NOS, SPD, BP).... The school district only had one substantially seperate classroom in the whole district which is at his current school of 3-4th graders. We told the SPED director that we wanted him included in activities with his peers from kindergarten. When his aid was talking about it this morning Elijah mentioned how he would have petted the animals like this... showed with a gentle hand, and how he would have fed the baby sheep it's bottle. He looked sad too that he was excluded.
His aid also told me that the rest of the kindergarteners are having a Memorial Day Program which she did not get informed about. They all started practicing thier songs last month, but he did not have a chance to. I don't even think that the plan was to include Elijah, but his 1:1 aid is going to get a couple songs that they are singing, teach him them, and bring him any ways.
Another thing the kindergarteners have their own computer based reading program called Lexia that his aid is doing with him... yes his aid... not the SPED teacher. She is getting some good teaching experience because it seems that she is his unofficial teacher. Any ways the teachers, assistants, etc. got a three day training on this program which is new a couple weeks ago. She did not get informed of the training, so she did not go until the second day when she found out from word of mouth, not from a supervisor, that it was going on. So great not only is my son excluded from field trips, but his aid is being denied the right training do to his placement as well....
I guess I should look on the bright side... at least Elijah is getting to go on a field trip on a Trolly Tour with the 3-4th graders that I am chaperoning him on. When they told me about the trip they were telling me that they did not know if maybe I wanted to drive the 90+ miles and meet them there because he might not do good on the bus. No thank you! I told them that I would go and he would be fine if we get to sit up front where he won't be able to see all the other kids.
I already called the SPED director but he was not in his office so I left messages. Later this afternoon I will call the SPED director back. I also wrote letters which I am going to bring to the SPED director and Superintendent's offices which state my concerns. I felt like going down to the SPED director's office and waiting for him to return but that might be unprofessional.
Just a reminder: his placement is in the 3rd-4th grade school. The kindergarteners go to the K-2 school which is up the hill a few feet away. The only substantially separate class our school district has is the class Elijah is in at the 3-4th grade school.Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
I sympathize with you. I have a child in a special education setting as well. It is often difficult to juggle all of the elements of special placement, because by nature it is 'different' than what most of the school employees are used to.
I would like to point out that there is a significant distinction here, however. It does not appear that they are excluding your son 'because of his disabilities'. It appears that they are excluding your son because he has been placed in a program that is not normally included in the field trips you are describing. It sounds more like a procedural problem than a discrimination problem.
The evidence for this is that they are planning to take him on a field trip with the students in the classroom he is placed in. If they had a problem with his disabilities and they were using that in some fashion to discriminate against him, I do not see how it would mesh with taking him on a field trip with substantially older children; I would imagine that would be MORE difficult (rather than less) and such a decision runs contrary to what you would expect if they were doing this on purpose.
I think you need to take a step back from this problem and review it from that perspective. If you begin attacking the administrators for 'discriminating' against your child, you are going to set yourself up in an adversarial position and they will respond in a highly defensive posture - and in this case they may well be right, since as I said I do not believe they are intentionally discriminating. What you should do is approach this calmly. Explain to them why you think it would be beneficial for him to attend field trips with his peers, and talk to them about what process they can set up so that he is included in future peer activities.Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
I honestly don't know the laws for your area or even federally. Contact an ACLU lawyer in your area and find out. I'm sorry that your child is being excluded because of his disability. That's unfortunate.Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
I agree with you, I feel like they are leaving you little boy out of things because of his disabilities. which is wrong in so many ways. My daughter is now in 6th grade and we have had the pleasure of having special needs children in a couple of her classes and they are treated the same as every other child as much as possible, her class goes on a field trip, so do the special needs children.The parents of the children come as well to help with their children, but you would want to go anyway.
You need to find out what your rights are and what rights Elijah has. It wasn't fair not to allow him to go and see the animals, he is part of this world too. Keep fighting, i feel you are within your rights to let them know this is unacceptable.
His aid also told me that the rest of the kindergarteners are having a Memorial Day Program which she did not get informed about. They all started practicing thier songs last month, but he did not have a chance to. I don't even think that the plan was to include Elijah, but his 1:1 aid is going to get a couple songs that they are singing, teach him them, and bring him any ways.
Another thing the kindergarteners have their own computer based reading program called Lexia that his aid is doing with him... yes his aid... not the SPED teacher. She is getting some good teaching experience because it seems that she is his unofficial teacher. Any ways the teachers, assistants, etc. got a three day training on this program which is new a couple weeks ago. She did not get informed of the training, so she did not go until the second day when she found out from word of mouth, not from a supervisor, that it was going on. So great not only is my son excluded from field trips, but his aid is being denied the right training do to his placement as well....
I guess I should look on the bright side... at least Elijah is getting to go on a field trip on a Trolly Tour with the 3-4th graders that I am chaperoning him on. When they told me about the trip they were telling me that they did not know if maybe I wanted to drive the 90+ miles and meet them there because he might not do good on the bus. No thank you! I told them that I would go and he would be fine if we get to sit up front where he won't be able to see all the other kids.
I already called the SPED director but he was not in his office so I left messages. Later this afternoon I will call the SPED director back. I also wrote letters which I am going to bring to the SPED director and Superintendent's offices which state my concerns. I felt like going down to the SPED director's office and waiting for him to return but that might be unprofessional.
Just a reminder: his placement is in the 3rd-4th grade school. The kindergarteners go to the K-2 school which is up the hill a few feet away. The only substantially separate class our school district has is the class Elijah is in at the 3-4th grade school.Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
I sympathize with you. I have a child in a special education setting as well. It is often difficult to juggle all of the elements of special placement, because by nature it is 'different' than what most of the school employees are used to.
I would like to point out that there is a significant distinction here, however. It does not appear that they are excluding your son 'because of his disabilities'. It appears that they are excluding your son because he has been placed in a program that is not normally included in the field trips you are describing. It sounds more like a procedural problem than a discrimination problem.
The evidence for this is that they are planning to take him on a field trip with the students in the classroom he is placed in. If they had a problem with his disabilities and they were using that in some fashion to discriminate against him, I do not see how it would mesh with taking him on a field trip with substantially older children; I would imagine that would be MORE difficult (rather than less) and such a decision runs contrary to what you would expect if they were doing this on purpose.
I think you need to take a step back from this problem and review it from that perspective. If you begin attacking the administrators for 'discriminating' against your child, you are going to set yourself up in an adversarial position and they will respond in a highly defensive posture - and in this case they may well be right, since as I said I do not believe they are intentionally discriminating. What you should do is approach this calmly. Explain to them why you think it would be beneficial for him to attend field trips with his peers, and talk to them about what process they can set up so that he is included in future peer activities.Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
I honestly don't know the laws for your area or even federally. Contact an ACLU lawyer in your area and find out. I'm sorry that your child is being excluded because of his disability. That's unfortunate.Was it legal to exclude my son from field trip due to his placement because of his disabilities?
I agree with you, I feel like they are leaving you little boy out of things because of his disabilities. which is wrong in so many ways. My daughter is now in 6th grade and we have had the pleasure of having special needs children in a couple of her classes and they are treated the same as every other child as much as possible, her class goes on a field trip, so do the special needs children.The parents of the children come as well to help with their children, but you would want to go anyway.
You need to find out what your rights are and what rights Elijah has. It wasn't fair not to allow him to go and see the animals, he is part of this world too. Keep fighting, i feel you are within your rights to let them know this is unacceptable.
What are the best special education preschools in the LA area? Public? Private?
I am moving to the Pasadena area in the spring and need to find the best full-time preschool for my child who has an IEP. My child is 4 years old and has been diagnosed with speech dyspraxia and PDD-NOS. My child currently attends the only public option in my county (in another state). However, I am hoping that a larger city such as LA will have many more options--both public and private. I will be also attending school in the San Dimas area, so that would also be an area that I could potentially consider for a preschool. How do I find the best preschool for speech dyspraxia? Any recommendations?What are the best special education preschools in the LA area? Public? Private?
try to check on http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=what%20鈥?/a>What are the best special education preschools in the LA area? Public? Private?
If your child would be receiving Regional Center services, the best thing to do is to call the Regional Center for the area you will be living and see if they can give you some advice on preschools. I'd keep asking questions until I got answers. You know how it is. I believe it depends on the diagnosis whether a 4 yr old is receiving services from the Regional Center or just the school district.
Regional Centers http://www.dds.ca.gov/rc/rclist.cfm
Ask your ped for the name of a ped out here and call and ask their office if they have ideas on who you should speak with to find an appropriate preschool. Ask support groups, the Regional Center should be able to give you names, or a local hospital might. Also, check online, maybe there is someone local at https://www.inspire.com/ or another support group. I would think for speech issues you would be able to get an ST to either come to the school, or the school would have one, or you'd have to take your son to ST. I think in part it depends on if the ST is through the school district. Not sure how it works now, it's been awhile since my son had ST. (Before 3 the ST from Regional Center came to our home, would have come to the preschool but I didn't want her to. After 3 he went to a local elem school for ST, it ended when he started K at a private school, but that was a good time for him.)
Places to look for advice:
http://www.pasadenachilddevelopment.org
http://www.autismspeaks.org/community/fs鈥?/a>
http://www.autismspeaks.org
http://www.abilityfirst.org/
http://www.redesignlearning.org/
http://www.specialcampsforspecialkids.co鈥?/a>
http://www.autismlink.com/
Good luck!
try to check on http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=what%20鈥?/a>What are the best special education preschools in the LA area? Public? Private?
If your child would be receiving Regional Center services, the best thing to do is to call the Regional Center for the area you will be living and see if they can give you some advice on preschools. I'd keep asking questions until I got answers. You know how it is. I believe it depends on the diagnosis whether a 4 yr old is receiving services from the Regional Center or just the school district.
Regional Centers http://www.dds.ca.gov/rc/rclist.cfm
Ask your ped for the name of a ped out here and call and ask their office if they have ideas on who you should speak with to find an appropriate preschool. Ask support groups, the Regional Center should be able to give you names, or a local hospital might. Also, check online, maybe there is someone local at https://www.inspire.com/ or another support group. I would think for speech issues you would be able to get an ST to either come to the school, or the school would have one, or you'd have to take your son to ST. I think in part it depends on if the ST is through the school district. Not sure how it works now, it's been awhile since my son had ST. (Before 3 the ST from Regional Center came to our home, would have come to the preschool but I didn't want her to. After 3 he went to a local elem school for ST, it ended when he started K at a private school, but that was a good time for him.)
Places to look for advice:
http://www.pasadenachilddevelopment.org
http://www.autismspeaks.org/community/fs鈥?/a>
http://www.autismspeaks.org
http://www.abilityfirst.org/
http://www.redesignlearning.org/
http://www.specialcampsforspecialkids.co鈥?/a>
http://www.autismlink.com/
Good luck!
How many different opinions/diagnosis's have you had for you mental state?
To many Psychologists/Therapists/Psychiatrists opinions differ as far as diagnosis.I'm fed up as my teen has had to many different meds over the years and to many doctors disagreeing with each other whats wrong.EXAMPLE:Over the last six years he was diagnosed with one or more of these(ADHD,BIPOLAR,PDD-NOS,BORDERLINE %26amp; SCHIZIOD PERSONALITY,BACK TO BIPOLAR %26amp; ASPERGER"S,THEN NOT BIPOLAR-to DEPRESSION,CONDUCT DISORDER) Give me a break.!!! What's next? Will you determine my son has a yeast infection?I went to get him help,How is this help? I'm so done with these so called mental health professionals.No more of my money for visits so you can buy yourself or your family fancy cars,homes ect.!!!How many different opinions/diagnosis's have you had for you mental state?
Bipolar takes a very long time to dx. It first starts out with the depression and anxiety dx even some psychosis. So that may be the cause of the different ones but many of the disorders you've stated don't get dxed until the person reaches the age of 18.
Doctors use the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders which I believe is to be updated soon if not already. Here is a link to how it's used. http://allpsych.com/disorders/dsm.html
I'm Bipolar and feel the labels are much worse and confusing then the disorder itself. Although being a parent, I would imagine it being very hard to hear all these different dx. Then to handle your child trying different meds as they affect everyone differently and side effects are hard to handle. Read as much as you can on all meds.
May I suggest that you research as much as you can on your own and keep notes on his symptoms and changes in as many ways as you can. You almost have to be your own advocate to get what you want from a doctor. Asking the right questions helps and of course understanding what answers your given must make sense.
I wish you both the very best.
Take care and never give up!
CellaHow many different opinions/diagnosis's have you had for you mental state?
I don't know if you have tried this already, but if you haven't I would recommend having him treated at a long-term facility where he can be evaluated for a period of time that is substantial enough to get the proper diagnosis and medication. Maybe a residential treatment facility or something related. I'm just thinking that maybe if professionals could be around him for an extended period of time, they could get the whole picture. I have personally been to many different facilities and it really took for me to get to the right one for me to get better. I do agree that what you have been through is totally ridiculous since some of those disorders are nothing alike. Best wishes.
Bipolar takes a very long time to dx. It first starts out with the depression and anxiety dx even some psychosis. So that may be the cause of the different ones but many of the disorders you've stated don't get dxed until the person reaches the age of 18.
Doctors use the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders which I believe is to be updated soon if not already. Here is a link to how it's used. http://allpsych.com/disorders/dsm.html
I'm Bipolar and feel the labels are much worse and confusing then the disorder itself. Although being a parent, I would imagine it being very hard to hear all these different dx. Then to handle your child trying different meds as they affect everyone differently and side effects are hard to handle. Read as much as you can on all meds.
May I suggest that you research as much as you can on your own and keep notes on his symptoms and changes in as many ways as you can. You almost have to be your own advocate to get what you want from a doctor. Asking the right questions helps and of course understanding what answers your given must make sense.
I wish you both the very best.
Take care and never give up!
CellaHow many different opinions/diagnosis's have you had for you mental state?
I don't know if you have tried this already, but if you haven't I would recommend having him treated at a long-term facility where he can be evaluated for a period of time that is substantial enough to get the proper diagnosis and medication. Maybe a residential treatment facility or something related. I'm just thinking that maybe if professionals could be around him for an extended period of time, they could get the whole picture. I have personally been to many different facilities and it really took for me to get to the right one for me to get better. I do agree that what you have been through is totally ridiculous since some of those disorders are nothing alike. Best wishes.
My 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
I have a 14 month old baby that doesn't blow raspberries, she also does not have any word's either. She does babble abit although it is quiet distorted. She only has a couple of consonants and her tongue is always making it sound unusual. She does make sound's but no word's at all, not even mama/dada.
I have been told that because she doesn't blow raspberries that she may not talk and that speech therapy may not be of any help to her either.
We have had an evaluation done on her by a Behavioural Paediatrician Specialist as she is displaying many autistic trait's and he thinks that we need to assess her when she is 18 months old for the Autism Spectrum Disorder, he is currently saying that she is on the spectrum (PDD-NOS) until an official diagnoses can be made.
Does anyone know if not been able to blow raspberries if it will affect the ability to talk. I have also been advised to start teaching her sign language too.
Thank you
JulieMy 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
It doesn't matter if a kid blows raspberries. I would be more worried about the way you are describing her babbling. A 14 month old should be using a wide variety of vowels and consonants. There is no possible way to tell if she will be able to talk and when it will develop, but the fact that her babbling is so limited is an indication that she is behind in her speech development. I would get her a speech and language evaluation with a speech-language pathologist.
I am shocked that a doctor has said a 14 month old is on the spectrum. That is VERRRY early to be making that diagnosis. Have you had her hearing checked?My 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
Maybe she just don't want to..My 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
Hi Julie,
No need to be worried yet. Kids say their first word around 12 months of age on AVERAGE, but there are late-talkers (like my sister!) who didn't talk until I believe somewhere around 18 months, and they end up just fine. Autism should not be diagnosed until 3 years of age, so don't get too anxious with that either. Also, baby sign is a great idea for any baby (not just those who are late-talkers), because it lets you know what they need before they are able to say it! Raspberries are merely the child 'playing' with their articulators (in this case, the lips). They really don't have anything to do with speech per se.
Does you daughter seem to understand what you say to her? EG does she respond to her name, laugh when you play with her, make eye contact?
Lastly, don't listen to people who say that speech therapy is not going to work. Even if your baby does end up having ASD, speech pathologists can do great things to help her and your family. Speech therapists don't just work on speech, they also work on social skills (eye contact, playing nicely with other children, etc) that specially target kids on the autism spectrum. I would take your daughter to an early intervention specialist (specifically in speech pathology if you are concerned especially about her speech). He/she will be able to give you a second opinion.
Hope everything turns out okay for you!
I have been told that because she doesn't blow raspberries that she may not talk and that speech therapy may not be of any help to her either.
We have had an evaluation done on her by a Behavioural Paediatrician Specialist as she is displaying many autistic trait's and he thinks that we need to assess her when she is 18 months old for the Autism Spectrum Disorder, he is currently saying that she is on the spectrum (PDD-NOS) until an official diagnoses can be made.
Does anyone know if not been able to blow raspberries if it will affect the ability to talk. I have also been advised to start teaching her sign language too.
Thank you
JulieMy 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
It doesn't matter if a kid blows raspberries. I would be more worried about the way you are describing her babbling. A 14 month old should be using a wide variety of vowels and consonants. There is no possible way to tell if she will be able to talk and when it will develop, but the fact that her babbling is so limited is an indication that she is behind in her speech development. I would get her a speech and language evaluation with a speech-language pathologist.
I am shocked that a doctor has said a 14 month old is on the spectrum. That is VERRRY early to be making that diagnosis. Have you had her hearing checked?My 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
Maybe she just don't want to..My 14 month old baby doesn't blow raspberries.?
Hi Julie,
No need to be worried yet. Kids say their first word around 12 months of age on AVERAGE, but there are late-talkers (like my sister!) who didn't talk until I believe somewhere around 18 months, and they end up just fine. Autism should not be diagnosed until 3 years of age, so don't get too anxious with that either. Also, baby sign is a great idea for any baby (not just those who are late-talkers), because it lets you know what they need before they are able to say it! Raspberries are merely the child 'playing' with their articulators (in this case, the lips). They really don't have anything to do with speech per se.
Does you daughter seem to understand what you say to her? EG does she respond to her name, laugh when you play with her, make eye contact?
Lastly, don't listen to people who say that speech therapy is not going to work. Even if your baby does end up having ASD, speech pathologists can do great things to help her and your family. Speech therapists don't just work on speech, they also work on social skills (eye contact, playing nicely with other children, etc) that specially target kids on the autism spectrum. I would take your daughter to an early intervention specialist (specifically in speech pathology if you are concerned especially about her speech). He/she will be able to give you a second opinion.
Hope everything turns out okay for you!
Is it illegal to take screenshots of private messages online and post them for the public to see?
My ex has been harrassing me continuously for the past few months on myspace. I'd block him but he also happens to be the father of my child and I had re-established communication w/him because I know that there is a high chance my son will want to get to know him in the future. His visitation rights were removed by the courts 7 years ago because he failed to exercise them but he blames me for the fact that he has no contace w/his son. He never tried to re-establish contact through the courts despite having lived in the same state for 2 years of our son's life. Our child has PDD-NOS - a form of autism that makes transitions quite difficult so I recommended he started w/sending letter but this didn't work. Mostly ALL of the messages he sends me have NOTHING to do w/ "Hey how's my son doing" and they always have to do with the fact that "I" supposedly wronged him. These past few days he's been posting things about me on his status comments and other people have commented about what a selfish person I am despite them knowing the real scenario. What would be the legal implications if I took all of those pictures and posted them on to a page and send it to these friends who really don't know him? I hate to do it - I really don't want to but maybe this will get him to stop and maybe it will protect these other ppl from him.Is it illegal to take screenshots of private messages online and post them for the public to see?
Ready?
Get off Myspace.
Cancel it.
Get busy with functions offered through the YMCA involving you and your child.
Make friends at these functions.
Be good to your child as you have been, and rise above the junk.driving school sigalert san diego
Ready?
Get off Myspace.
Cancel it.
Get busy with functions offered through the YMCA involving you and your child.
Make friends at these functions.
Be good to your child as you have been, and rise above the junk.
When tea parties cause headaches and you want to run?
Social phobia and PDD-NOS. That's what I officially have. This doesn't make social gatherings the most delightfully experience.
Yesterday I went to a 'tea party' with a friend of mine. She was going to stay over and so I had to leave with her. But I didn't like it at all there. I hated it. I felt stuck. The conversations were just too intellectual/philisopical for me too: How mankind was having a negative influence on the earth -and that less was perhaps beter- and that animals were better because they would never hurt thier own kind. About conspiracy theories and how the 'common people' were kept dumb. And about languagesspoken in some place I had never heard of. During the hours and hours of being there my mouth felt like it was taped closed and I was stuck to my chair.
It was becoming a headache. One girl was such a talker -when I asked something -she would jump from one subject to another and use 'substories' within substories. I was completely lost and couldn't even ask questions because I didn't even know what story she was in.
Basically I hated it. Does this only have to do with me and my mental disorders? Am I just too dumb for this group of friends? The sad thing is -this girl I went there with I'm kinda dating and she seemed to have the time of her life. I think I basically don't know how to 'sway' conversations to topics I also may know something about. Or I don't dare to say things. I do like all the peeople there individually but should I avoid the tea parties in the future?
When tea parties cause headaches and you want to run?
I'm assuming you are a guy? Were you the only guy there (if you are a guy)? If you are a guy and there were other guys there you might have tried to talk to them. I know the kind of person you are talking about - jumping from subject to subject and sub-story to sub-story - *they* are the *most* socially inept. In any case, if this is the sort of activity your gf likes - and it makes you ill - well, you might want to question whether she is the one for you.
Yesterday I went to a 'tea party' with a friend of mine. She was going to stay over and so I had to leave with her. But I didn't like it at all there. I hated it. I felt stuck. The conversations were just too intellectual/philisopical for me too: How mankind was having a negative influence on the earth -and that less was perhaps beter- and that animals were better because they would never hurt thier own kind. About conspiracy theories and how the 'common people' were kept dumb. And about languagesspoken in some place I had never heard of. During the hours and hours of being there my mouth felt like it was taped closed and I was stuck to my chair.
It was becoming a headache. One girl was such a talker -when I asked something -she would jump from one subject to another and use 'substories' within substories. I was completely lost and couldn't even ask questions because I didn't even know what story she was in.
Basically I hated it. Does this only have to do with me and my mental disorders? Am I just too dumb for this group of friends? The sad thing is -this girl I went there with I'm kinda dating and she seemed to have the time of her life. I think I basically don't know how to 'sway' conversations to topics I also may know something about. Or I don't dare to say things. I do like all the peeople there individually but should I avoid the tea parties in the future?
When tea parties cause headaches and you want to run?
I'm assuming you are a guy? Were you the only guy there (if you are a guy)? If you are a guy and there were other guys there you might have tried to talk to them. I know the kind of person you are talking about - jumping from subject to subject and sub-story to sub-story - *they* are the *most* socially inept. In any case, if this is the sort of activity your gf likes - and it makes you ill - well, you might want to question whether she is the one for you.
Have you tried a gluten and casein free child with a child with an autism spectrum disorder?
I have a six year old boy who was diagnosed with PDD-NOS. He is the sweetest little guy and I'd do anything to help him. Yesterday, I started him on a gluten/casein free diet. Has anybody here personally done this or is close with anyone who has? I see so many people say that they noticed "significant improvements" but they're so vague about it. What improvements are seen, and to what extent? I'm not very wealthy, and I realize that this diet won't be easy, so I want to know if it has any chance of helping. (However, he's always been so skinny, has constant tummy upsets and often has diarrhea, so maybe the diet will at least take care of that.)Have you tried a gluten and casein free child with a child with an autism spectrum disorder?
I watched an episode of Oprah that dealt with Autism and the woman on their was saying she took her son of wheat and noticed a huge difference. Check out oprah's site.
Had some time so found it for youHave you tried a gluten and casein free child with a child with an autism spectrum disorder?
my bro has an autism spectrum.....but i dont think we ever tried that type of diet....i have heard it works and cuts down on hyper active..and some steming...but we just worked with my bro...(he was also partially deaf)....he is 13 now and everyone thinks he is a normal kid if he doesnt stem or have an ear infection.........i wish you the best of luck and i hope the diet thing works...(we couldnt do the diet thing becuase im on a strict regiminted diet)
I watched an episode of Oprah that dealt with Autism and the woman on their was saying she took her son of wheat and noticed a huge difference. Check out oprah's site.
Had some time so found it for youHave you tried a gluten and casein free child with a child with an autism spectrum disorder?
my bro has an autism spectrum.....but i dont think we ever tried that type of diet....i have heard it works and cuts down on hyper active..and some steming...but we just worked with my bro...(he was also partially deaf)....he is 13 now and everyone thinks he is a normal kid if he doesnt stem or have an ear infection.........i wish you the best of luck and i hope the diet thing works...(we couldnt do the diet thing becuase im on a strict regiminted diet)
Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?
Well, I麓m not a Pyschologist but have PDD-NOS. And I麓ve been told on MANY occasions (by Psychologists) that automatic empathy is a God-given thing that cannot change. You can only learn to 'compensate' for the lack of it.
Recently I saw a lecture by a professor from the University of Chicago. He was explaining that the degree of empathy is not somehting you were born with. And that higher brain functions influence this automatic pathway.
What does this all mean? Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?
people with down syndrome express empathy, what more of an autisitc. the only difference is that the autistic brain has more gray matter than white matter in the areas where thought process takes place. empathy is an emotion usually produced automatically by the hypothalamus, just like normal people.
given the degree of rudimentary empathy, austistic individuals can be conditioned to actually express it.Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?
Some can...it really depends on the severity of the disorder and the type. Generally, empathy is something learned when very young, and the older a person gets without developing it, the less able he/she is to develop it later on. The more severe the autism, the harder it will be to develop this trait. Parents have a formidable task teaching autistic children empathy, but should always make the extra effort to try, because it's not out of the realm of possibility that some degree of empathy can be learned.
Recently I saw a lecture by a professor from the University of Chicago. He was explaining that the degree of empathy is not somehting you were born with. And that higher brain functions influence this automatic pathway.
What does this all mean? Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?
people with down syndrome express empathy, what more of an autisitc. the only difference is that the autistic brain has more gray matter than white matter in the areas where thought process takes place. empathy is an emotion usually produced automatically by the hypothalamus, just like normal people.
given the degree of rudimentary empathy, austistic individuals can be conditioned to actually express it.Can people with an autistic disorder learn to be more empathetic?
Some can...it really depends on the severity of the disorder and the type. Generally, empathy is something learned when very young, and the older a person gets without developing it, the less able he/she is to develop it later on. The more severe the autism, the harder it will be to develop this trait. Parents have a formidable task teaching autistic children empathy, but should always make the extra effort to try, because it's not out of the realm of possibility that some degree of empathy can be learned.
If your child has Pervasive Development Disorder, will he/she ever grow out of it, and where can i get help ?
My child has had Pervasive Development Disorder for 7 years now and is currently 8 years old, and her communication and social skills no matter were i take her to increase her social skills, and all of the speech therapy i do at home with her, she still cannot properly communicate with other kids and have the same social skills they have. She is an A and B student and is going into the 2nd grade but will she ever outgrow this disorder of PDD/NOS? There are no Speech Pathologists in the area that are accepting new patients due to an 8-15 or even an 18 month waiting list, and insurance will only cover 2-3 visits a month or a maximum of 36 visits a year. Where can i get support from other parents who have kids with out this disorder and parents who have kids with this disorder? And where can i find a speech therapist that can help me get my daughter to communicate properly?If your child has Pervasive Development Disorder, will he/she ever grow out of it, and where can i get help ?
1st: Try introducing a musical instrument; I picked up a guitar at age 12, and immediately had much to say--couldn't shut up. And it was a great way to quiet a restless mind... I have Asperger's Syndrome, and it is a high functioning form of autism.
2nd: Who diagnosed her; a Psychiatrist, or a Neurologist?
This makes all the difference in the world. I was diagnosed by a psychiatrist with PDD and had the most horrible experiences over ten years of treatment with powerful drugs that didn't work at all. If your daughter was diagnosed by a psychiatrist then definately have her re-evaluated by a Neurologist. Most meds don't work, or make things worse.
Maybe you noticed I removed much of my answer, I felt the need to condense it,, and not be so "verbose"... I can repeat myself at least 50 different ways of saying the same thing.
Most of all, I want you to know there's hope. As I was first brought to doctors at age 7: I am 44 now, and I'm a Registered Medical Assistant, video producer, and ARMY veteran. My point is: though I am different, I found my voice,, and I wouldn't trade in my life now. The journey is difficult, but I'm not that unusual. There are dozens of adults in my Aspergers group that feel as happy and complete as I.
Good luck...If your child has Pervasive Development Disorder, will he/she ever grow out of it, and where can i get help ?
I have Autism myself which is classified as a form of PDD and well PDDs don't get cured or go away, but improvements can occur if you do things correctly.If your child has Pervasive Development Disorder, will he/she ever grow out of it, and where can i get help ?
There are no cures or fixes for any form of PDD. PDD-NOS however is often a milder form, and it seems there isn't a HUGE amount of information around it.
I'm, sorry that I cannot be of a huge amount of help, however, the site listed in my source has some organisations that may be of some help to you.
Note: Autism is a form of PDD. PDD-NOS is simply PDD that doesn't fall under any of the following:
Rett syndrome, Autism, Childhood disintegrative disorder or Asperger syndrome
1st: Try introducing a musical instrument; I picked up a guitar at age 12, and immediately had much to say--couldn't shut up. And it was a great way to quiet a restless mind... I have Asperger's Syndrome, and it is a high functioning form of autism.
2nd: Who diagnosed her; a Psychiatrist, or a Neurologist?
This makes all the difference in the world. I was diagnosed by a psychiatrist with PDD and had the most horrible experiences over ten years of treatment with powerful drugs that didn't work at all. If your daughter was diagnosed by a psychiatrist then definately have her re-evaluated by a Neurologist. Most meds don't work, or make things worse.
Maybe you noticed I removed much of my answer, I felt the need to condense it,, and not be so "verbose"... I can repeat myself at least 50 different ways of saying the same thing.
Most of all, I want you to know there's hope. As I was first brought to doctors at age 7: I am 44 now, and I'm a Registered Medical Assistant, video producer, and ARMY veteran. My point is: though I am different, I found my voice,, and I wouldn't trade in my life now. The journey is difficult, but I'm not that unusual. There are dozens of adults in my Aspergers group that feel as happy and complete as I.
Good luck...If your child has Pervasive Development Disorder, will he/she ever grow out of it, and where can i get help ?
I have Autism myself which is classified as a form of PDD and well PDDs don't get cured or go away, but improvements can occur if you do things correctly.If your child has Pervasive Development Disorder, will he/she ever grow out of it, and where can i get help ?
There are no cures or fixes for any form of PDD. PDD-NOS however is often a milder form, and it seems there isn't a HUGE amount of information around it.
I'm, sorry that I cannot be of a huge amount of help, however, the site listed in my source has some organisations that may be of some help to you.
Note: Autism is a form of PDD. PDD-NOS is simply PDD that doesn't fall under any of the following:
Rett syndrome, Autism, Childhood disintegrative disorder or Asperger syndrome
Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
Any Mom's out there who can help me understand how to gain control over my home? Here is what I am having problems with:
-Disciplining my 2 kids ( I am trying, using methods from Supernanny, but having trouble keeping them under control..my son is really ruff with his younger sister, and she screams bloody murder about everything, and they just can't get along). Most of that is cuz she can't talk yet (2 years old)...
- The house is in dis array, a mess. The laundry is so far behind, that there are baskets everywhere of clean or dirty clothes...the house work is behind, and I am having trouble getting caught up. I have a plan of action to get caught up. All planned out so I just do a certain amount everyday, but that certain amoutn doesn't seem to be making much difference.
-I am going to be homeschooling my kids...Am still learning how to start, and all.
-I have a 2 month old girl...
-My husband is against homeschooling, always complains about the house, is always telling me this or that needs to be done, when I already know it does, I just haven't gotten to it yet. He NEVER encourages me, never helps, never tries to understand.
-I am having problems with my blood sugar, it's too low a lot so I need to eat healthier snacks, I am anemic,so i need to up the iron in my diet or get iron pills, and I get migraines. I am always tired and worn out as a result of all this. My energy is always drained, and I feel overwhelmed with all of it like 90% of the time. I get dizzy spells, and am lightheaded a lot. I am on the verge of crying a lot.
-My son (4 years old) has PDD-NOS and autism spectrum disorder. He's high functiioning tho.
-My daughter has a speech delay, verbal apraxia. She can't say words, and that makes for lots of frustrating times.
-My patience is wearing out..I need help and it would be nice if I had some support from my other half. He won't encourage/support or try to help me...Makes ll smart alec remarks about my weight.Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
Tackle each problem individually. Try not to get overwhelmed by looking at the entire problem. First and most importantly take care of yourself. You know what you have to do. Get your iron pills and stop stocking any junk food in your house. Once you do that look at your meals and start finding ways to make your meals healthier. Find alternative, healthier solutions. In my case I now use Olive Oil in place of other oils or butter/margarine.
For the kids, if they can't play well together try and keep them separate. Every child has something that makes them happy. Try and separate them and give them their own personal activity time.
Make a habit of cleaning as you go. If your house is gotten too far behind consider hiring a service to come in and get you caught up. Even if it is a one time deal. If you don't want to spend the money perhaps you have some friends/family members that would be happy to help you get caught up.
Have your husband take the kids out once a week. My husband takes the kids out on the weekend to the park. Gives me a 3hr window to get caught up on anything I can't while the kids are gone. I even make myself a coffee to enjoy while I'm cleaning and crank up the tunes. As crazy as that sounds its actually very relaxing for me. Take that time to enjoy the silence.
I don't think Super nanny will work with kids on the spectrum. I have a 3 1/2 year old non-verbal autistic son. I am having trouble disciplining him because he doesn't seem to understand anything we say. I also have a 6 month old daughter and diabetes. I can relate where you are coming from. Do you have your 2 year old in an early intervention type of program? My son is in a special needs preschool that our school district is paying for. It gives me a 4 hour break everyday. I only have to take care of my 6 month old daughter and can get some cleaning done. Honestly at this point, it would probably be best to have your 2 oldest in a preschool type of program that early intervention and the school district will pay for so you can get a small break. Everyone needs a break sometimes. I understand the whole homeschooling bit because I will likely home school my son when he reaches elementary school age. If you go through your regional center, you can get respite care with your 2 that are special needs. They can send someone over to watch your 2 while you take care of the little one. I am frustrated too because I don't have any family or friends nearby and I don't drive yet either so I am stuck home a lot. Also the nearest park to me is 2 miles away. I think what some of the others said were right. You need to get to a doctor and get checked out. I really do wish you the best of luck because I couldn't imagine having 3 and 2 with special needs. My 2 are difficult and you must be very brave to survive it.Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
Okay, let me see if I have this right:
You have: 3 children (2 of which are special needs), a crapload of housework, and you want to homeschool.
On top of alllllll that... you are anemic, and hypoglycemic, which leaves you drained in every possible way.
And the cherry on the sundae, your husband won't pitch in?
You need help. Either he needs to get with the program, or perhaps you could hire someone to come in and help out. Either way, you have to start taking care of yourself.
If you don't take care of yourself... how do you expect to take care of your children? Don't they deserve a mom who is functioning closer to 100% than 50%?
Best advice I can give you, is take care of yourself first. You aren't doing anyone any favors being so run down. Your kids need you.
Edit: If he thinks it's so easy, let him do it! It isn't easy under the best of circumstances. A one time maid, isn't going to much help. You sound totally overwhelmed.
Instead, have you considered hiring a high school student to come over a couple afternoons a week? She could entertain the children, while you have a needed break, or get other things done. She'll also work more enthusiastically and cheaper than an adult.
I say this, because that's while I did after school. 3 days a week, from 3-6, I entertained their daughter, so her mother could catch up on chores, read a book, breathe, walk the dog, run errands, whatever she wanted/needed to do.
Ask the local guidance counselor to help you. Look for someone interested in early childhood or education.
The other answers are great about how to get your house back, but.......
PLEASE don't homeschool your kids unless you are fully trained in special education and speech pathology. You are not trained to handle their special needs and they will suffer as a result. They need to have intervention with people who know what they are doing. It's clear you don't know how to handle their behavior now, and it will only get worse without the proper help.Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
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its easy to get overwhelmed when you have kids and a family to take care of
but maybe you should not be on the computer and get some of that taken care of or take a nap or something
and tell your husband if he has a problem with the house then he can deal with it because you have more important priorities than being his little wifey who makes everything perfect. and stop doing things for him! if he runs out of clean clothes and doesnt want to live in a mess then he will eventually do it himself
Your kids aren't even school aged yet (4, 2 and 2 mo), so you have a couple of years to get caught up on your housework. You need to get to the doc to see what your health problems are, sounds to me like you just need someone to help you prioritize things. Sounds like you're all over the place. Focus.
I have been where you are, only my husband did not make comments about my appearance. It can be so overwhelming it seems unmanageable. Here is what I did to gain control. First I started with my kids rooms. I bought toy bins and got their rooms organized. Then I gated them in the room while I cleaned the rest. I took it one room a day, and just keep at laundry every day. If your son is mean to your daughter gate them in their own rooms. Once their rooms were organized they loved playing in there. And every evening before dinner or bed we cleaned their rooms. It is very important to stay up on the area you already cleaned. They are old enough to help clean their own rooms. Another important step is to stop beating yourself up. Get up and change it and you will feel better about yourself.
As far as discipline goes just keep at it, at their age it can seem they will never understand but in time they will. Make sure you follow through with your threats or they will never listen.
As far as homeschooling goes, I agree with your husband. First of all it would give you a much needed break from the kids. Everyone needs a break, it does not make you a bad person. Second public schools have so many resources for kids with special needs, especially at elementary level.
Just keep at it a room a day. Once it is under control you and your kids will feel so much better and I bet their frustration level with go down as well. Kids feed off our emotions even when we try to hide them.
Once it is under control sit down and have a talk with your husband about the way he is treating you. It has to be frustrating for him, but that does not mean he should be verbally abusing you.
If your blood sugar is that out of control, make sure you eat often. I think you should talk to your doctor about getting on antidepressants as well. It does not have to be forever, but long enough to get you back on your feet.
First off, have one day a week where your children are out of the house completely, like a day with their father. You can get caught up on the housework, and have a much needed vacation. Take your autistic child and your daughter who has verbal apraxia to a speech and language pathologist she/he will help the situation A LOT! Also, tell your husband it's a hard time for you and you need his support and explain that someday he can do some housework also. For your son thats ruff with your daughter, when he does this do what he did to your daughter to him (but MUCH MUCH MUCH lighter) he'll get the message that it's uncomfortable and he won't do it again. Take 10 min a day to just meditate and take deep breathes it will calm you down.
ok, you need to take a deep breath. get your health under control, then focus on your relationship. you will have to make compromises, just like he will. homeschooling is alot in itself, homeschooling a special education needs child on top of everything is going to be a challenge. decide if you are up to it, then tap your community resources. yeah, you just really need some help.electric car sprinter
-Disciplining my 2 kids ( I am trying, using methods from Supernanny, but having trouble keeping them under control..my son is really ruff with his younger sister, and she screams bloody murder about everything, and they just can't get along). Most of that is cuz she can't talk yet (2 years old)...
- The house is in dis array, a mess. The laundry is so far behind, that there are baskets everywhere of clean or dirty clothes...the house work is behind, and I am having trouble getting caught up. I have a plan of action to get caught up. All planned out so I just do a certain amount everyday, but that certain amoutn doesn't seem to be making much difference.
-I am going to be homeschooling my kids...Am still learning how to start, and all.
-I have a 2 month old girl...
-My husband is against homeschooling, always complains about the house, is always telling me this or that needs to be done, when I already know it does, I just haven't gotten to it yet. He NEVER encourages me, never helps, never tries to understand.
-I am having problems with my blood sugar, it's too low a lot so I need to eat healthier snacks, I am anemic,so i need to up the iron in my diet or get iron pills, and I get migraines. I am always tired and worn out as a result of all this. My energy is always drained, and I feel overwhelmed with all of it like 90% of the time. I get dizzy spells, and am lightheaded a lot. I am on the verge of crying a lot.
-My son (4 years old) has PDD-NOS and autism spectrum disorder. He's high functiioning tho.
-My daughter has a speech delay, verbal apraxia. She can't say words, and that makes for lots of frustrating times.
-My patience is wearing out..I need help and it would be nice if I had some support from my other half. He won't encourage/support or try to help me...Makes ll smart alec remarks about my weight.Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
Tackle each problem individually. Try not to get overwhelmed by looking at the entire problem. First and most importantly take care of yourself. You know what you have to do. Get your iron pills and stop stocking any junk food in your house. Once you do that look at your meals and start finding ways to make your meals healthier. Find alternative, healthier solutions. In my case I now use Olive Oil in place of other oils or butter/margarine.
For the kids, if they can't play well together try and keep them separate. Every child has something that makes them happy. Try and separate them and give them their own personal activity time.
Make a habit of cleaning as you go. If your house is gotten too far behind consider hiring a service to come in and get you caught up. Even if it is a one time deal. If you don't want to spend the money perhaps you have some friends/family members that would be happy to help you get caught up.
Have your husband take the kids out once a week. My husband takes the kids out on the weekend to the park. Gives me a 3hr window to get caught up on anything I can't while the kids are gone. I even make myself a coffee to enjoy while I'm cleaning and crank up the tunes. As crazy as that sounds its actually very relaxing for me. Take that time to enjoy the silence.
I don't think Super nanny will work with kids on the spectrum. I have a 3 1/2 year old non-verbal autistic son. I am having trouble disciplining him because he doesn't seem to understand anything we say. I also have a 6 month old daughter and diabetes. I can relate where you are coming from. Do you have your 2 year old in an early intervention type of program? My son is in a special needs preschool that our school district is paying for. It gives me a 4 hour break everyday. I only have to take care of my 6 month old daughter and can get some cleaning done. Honestly at this point, it would probably be best to have your 2 oldest in a preschool type of program that early intervention and the school district will pay for so you can get a small break. Everyone needs a break sometimes. I understand the whole homeschooling bit because I will likely home school my son when he reaches elementary school age. If you go through your regional center, you can get respite care with your 2 that are special needs. They can send someone over to watch your 2 while you take care of the little one. I am frustrated too because I don't have any family or friends nearby and I don't drive yet either so I am stuck home a lot. Also the nearest park to me is 2 miles away. I think what some of the others said were right. You need to get to a doctor and get checked out. I really do wish you the best of luck because I couldn't imagine having 3 and 2 with special needs. My 2 are difficult and you must be very brave to survive it.Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
Okay, let me see if I have this right:
You have: 3 children (2 of which are special needs), a crapload of housework, and you want to homeschool.
On top of alllllll that... you are anemic, and hypoglycemic, which leaves you drained in every possible way.
And the cherry on the sundae, your husband won't pitch in?
You need help. Either he needs to get with the program, or perhaps you could hire someone to come in and help out. Either way, you have to start taking care of yourself.
If you don't take care of yourself... how do you expect to take care of your children? Don't they deserve a mom who is functioning closer to 100% than 50%?
Best advice I can give you, is take care of yourself first. You aren't doing anyone any favors being so run down. Your kids need you.
Edit: If he thinks it's so easy, let him do it! It isn't easy under the best of circumstances. A one time maid, isn't going to much help. You sound totally overwhelmed.
Instead, have you considered hiring a high school student to come over a couple afternoons a week? She could entertain the children, while you have a needed break, or get other things done. She'll also work more enthusiastically and cheaper than an adult.
I say this, because that's while I did after school. 3 days a week, from 3-6, I entertained their daughter, so her mother could catch up on chores, read a book, breathe, walk the dog, run errands, whatever she wanted/needed to do.
Ask the local guidance counselor to help you. Look for someone interested in early childhood or education.
The other answers are great about how to get your house back, but.......
PLEASE don't homeschool your kids unless you are fully trained in special education and speech pathology. You are not trained to handle their special needs and they will suffer as a result. They need to have intervention with people who know what they are doing. It's clear you don't know how to handle their behavior now, and it will only get worse without the proper help.Chaos on the homefront..HELP!?
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its easy to get overwhelmed when you have kids and a family to take care of
but maybe you should not be on the computer and get some of that taken care of or take a nap or something
and tell your husband if he has a problem with the house then he can deal with it because you have more important priorities than being his little wifey who makes everything perfect. and stop doing things for him! if he runs out of clean clothes and doesnt want to live in a mess then he will eventually do it himself
Your kids aren't even school aged yet (4, 2 and 2 mo), so you have a couple of years to get caught up on your housework. You need to get to the doc to see what your health problems are, sounds to me like you just need someone to help you prioritize things. Sounds like you're all over the place. Focus.
I have been where you are, only my husband did not make comments about my appearance. It can be so overwhelming it seems unmanageable. Here is what I did to gain control. First I started with my kids rooms. I bought toy bins and got their rooms organized. Then I gated them in the room while I cleaned the rest. I took it one room a day, and just keep at laundry every day. If your son is mean to your daughter gate them in their own rooms. Once their rooms were organized they loved playing in there. And every evening before dinner or bed we cleaned their rooms. It is very important to stay up on the area you already cleaned. They are old enough to help clean their own rooms. Another important step is to stop beating yourself up. Get up and change it and you will feel better about yourself.
As far as discipline goes just keep at it, at their age it can seem they will never understand but in time they will. Make sure you follow through with your threats or they will never listen.
As far as homeschooling goes, I agree with your husband. First of all it would give you a much needed break from the kids. Everyone needs a break, it does not make you a bad person. Second public schools have so many resources for kids with special needs, especially at elementary level.
Just keep at it a room a day. Once it is under control you and your kids will feel so much better and I bet their frustration level with go down as well. Kids feed off our emotions even when we try to hide them.
Once it is under control sit down and have a talk with your husband about the way he is treating you. It has to be frustrating for him, but that does not mean he should be verbally abusing you.
If your blood sugar is that out of control, make sure you eat often. I think you should talk to your doctor about getting on antidepressants as well. It does not have to be forever, but long enough to get you back on your feet.
First off, have one day a week where your children are out of the house completely, like a day with their father. You can get caught up on the housework, and have a much needed vacation. Take your autistic child and your daughter who has verbal apraxia to a speech and language pathologist she/he will help the situation A LOT! Also, tell your husband it's a hard time for you and you need his support and explain that someday he can do some housework also. For your son thats ruff with your daughter, when he does this do what he did to your daughter to him (but MUCH MUCH MUCH lighter) he'll get the message that it's uncomfortable and he won't do it again. Take 10 min a day to just meditate and take deep breathes it will calm you down.
ok, you need to take a deep breath. get your health under control, then focus on your relationship. you will have to make compromises, just like he will. homeschooling is alot in itself, homeschooling a special education needs child on top of everything is going to be a challenge. decide if you are up to it, then tap your community resources. yeah, you just really need some help.
Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
My son who is almost seven years old is in kindergarten. He has PDD-NOS (autism spectrum disorder), Sensory Processing Disorder, as well as some other diagnoses. He is on some medications which make him constipated. His pediatrician recently added Mirilax to help him move his bowels easier. When he has BMs he will do them in his pants without knowing he went. Sometimes he has little streaks in his underwear (oozing from being constipated). Other times he will successfully make it to the toilet, but refuses to wipe so he gets streaks of poo on his underwear.
He has a 1:1 aid, and is in a SPED class at his school. Yesterday the nurse confronted me about the teacher's complaining he was smelling like feces. I told her that it might be a side effect of his medication. She said "yes but it also might just be immaturity". This morning when I dropped him off I was getting him out of the van and I could smell him. He was fine when we left the house. We went inside and I asked the nurse if we could use her bathroom. She let us so I cleaned him up and helped him put some clean clothes on. Then on our way out I stopped and talked to her about how the pediatrician put him on Mirilax yesterday when we seen him and told her that this might cause him to have loose stools for a few days while we are finding the right dose.
She told me that everytime my son smells like poop, has streeks in his underwear, oozes, or poops himself that I will be called to either come to school and clean him up, or take him home, give him a bath, and be expected to bring him back again. She said that she can not help him because of his age. She said children his age have better memories than preschoolers do. She then went on to tell me that some nurses might like at hospitals but she is not going to. He has always had extra clothes... three complete outfits, along with flushable wipes at school since the first day. I don't understand why they can not help him clean himself at school? I think it is unacceptable for them to call me everytime he smells. I could see if it was down his legs and a big mess, but they are all contained in his underwear. It has not been easy teaching my son his self help skills. He will quickly learn that if he poops himself, does not wipe, etc. that Mommy will have to come get him. That might cause some regression in the skills that have been hard for him to learn. Do you think that it is acceptable for the school to expect me to come get him everytime he smells?Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
I can feel your frustration. It is extremely difficult to parent a child with autism - twice as hard to teach the basic skills that other children learn instantly and then there is the regression at the slightest change.
I am sure the nurse is stating school policy, but the teacher does not asound as if she is aware of the situations that can arise with children with autism.
As a parent, I would request that the IEP team be reconvened to discuss this issue. You might ask your son's doctors to write of his current medical situation to add to the discussion. If there is a special ed supervisor who oversees the autism program, invite them also and finally, the supervisor of the school system's nurses.
At the meeting, request that a medical plan be put into effect for your son. This will detail what is to be done when the situation arises and who is responsible for implementing each step. The doctors will have the opportunity to have input at this level.
In addition, ask that his special ed teacher %26amp; speech therapist develop social stories to help your son learn what to do when he feels the need to use the bathroom or when he has an accident.
Finally, since wiping is an issue, it sounds as if he might have some sensory issues with the whole 'poop" idea. If he is not already receiving it as a related service, make sure you request an Occupational Therapy evaluation through an IEP review/revision.
Hope this gives you some ideas. Best of Luck!
if its a public school, i dont think even special ed classes put wiping childrens feces in their job description. I would suggest a special school for children with related illnesses or home schooling.Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
Yes. Sorry about your son.
Unfortunatly, yes. But in your defense the nurse sounds like a beeeeatch.Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
It's sucks, but yes.
Hun i have to agree with some of the answers here, i know for a fact that 'some' children do have these problems But.. i know there is a new law about cleaning children that have messed or wet themselves especially Special needs children.Thomas %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;here was in diapers/nappies up until he was 8 and the school could change him because he was in diapers, but when it came to changing him to pants then they couldn't do and i was also called into school and had to change him myself, so yes i do agree they are doing what the new school law says they should do, i know its tough Hun but its tough for them sometimes when their hands are tied
My child has issues. Miralax is not the best choice for her. I give her two strips of Colace every night (Fleet brand Pedia-Lax, which also comes in a liquid. There is a penguin on the box).
She sits on the potty stool for an hour watching the Powerpuff girls every morning. Usually if she poops in the morning, she is OK for the rest of the day.
It works pretty well for us, if I am consistent with the routine.
You might contact the local school board to find out if it is legal for the 1:1 aide to wipe him up. You might try to find out if they can get an aide that is able to wipe him up. Legally, there are all kinds of issues with helping a child with cleaning himself, because of new rules governing sexual misconduct (as insane as that sounds).
Your child is entitle to a free and equal education. The school is required to send a teacher home with your child if necessary. You might ask the principal if that would be better for the school . Not that this is what you want- but it may help in your argument for an aide that can attend to bathroom issues. It is no good for anybody to have your child miss so much school.
I really think it is reasonable to send a child home that smells like feces. It is disruptive to the classroom environment. There is a concern about spreading disease. Other parents and teachers might have concerns about Hepatitis B contamination.
I wish all schools had a bidet for this kind of problem. but I do not know how you would get a school to spend the money.
I find it unfortunate the school nurse has been so unprofessional. You should report her to the principal and the Board of Nursing for refusing to perform duties part of her job description and within nursing scope of practice.
Yes, I think it's acceptable for the school to call you in to do it. It may be a pain but it's part of what needs to be done. The school needs to protect themselves. All it takes is one child saying that the nurse did something inappropriate and the school is in deep do-do (no pun intended) and the nurse loses their job.
i worked with kids with austim---we helped tehm with their hygiene no matter what their age--without sending them home or calling teh parent
TEACHING can include teaching hium to clean himslef up.....that is very common with children with dsiabilities
They are there to teach not clean up... i would understnad if it happened just a little bit but it seems like it happens everyday. lower the doseage it isnt their responsibillity
I do not know what the law is, but this is ridiculous. I have been a school teacher for 17 years. I have cleaned bottoms and change soiled pants. Good teachers and nurses even keep a stock pile of clothes for accidents. I'm not sure but I think the 1:1 aid is the one who should be taking care of this. That's what the aid is partly for. The school district is receiving money because they have your child with his certain disability. Make them do their job!
Just wanted to say that I think JazzyGee has given you some excellent advice. I feel for you and understand your frustrations with the school. I really thought there were laws now days that cover these kind of things with special education children and protect their rights to get an education. My niece that I have custody of is in special ed and there is a boy in here class that wears diapers and they change him everyday when needed. He even has a toddler bed in the classroom for naps and this is in high school. With a seven year old I really cannot believe this is such a big issue. Good luck and stand your ground. You are right and are not asking too much.
If he has a 1:1 aid that person should be qualified to work with him and all the challenges that come along with his condition. The teacher was wrong to say he was immature. He has autism. Geish!
Get a doctor to write a note/letter to the school explaining the special needs and medication issues or find a different school. If I were you I would be fighting the school to get him through the phase he is in because he is growing at the rate he was born to grow at. I would go to the principal or the school board.
Your teacher's lack of support shows a system that will allow for him to fail and be teased later on in his school life. This is not a normal sitaution.They need to realize it and stop being so prissy.
Wow. Some of these answers are just ignorant.
Sounds like the nurse is stating a policy. Find out where the policy came from and explain your son's situation completely. If the nurse is concerned about her personal liability (and it sounds to me like she is) the 1:1 assistant should be available to stand by as the nurse cleans your son.
I agree that your son will quickly poop to make you show up.
Stand your ground. The nurse does sound like a hag.
Final thought: you can stop the med that causes it. Constipation won't kill him. Give him more fiber and prunes, instead.
No, the school should be able to deal with this.
A mainstream school my sister was at was perfectly capable of changing her nappies (diapers).
Maybe they are concerned about 'touching' your child?
You need to point out that his age is nothing to do with his mental state, and thus they can't refuse to deal with it. It doesn't even sound as if it's a major issue. If he has changes of clothes and can be instructed to wipe, they can easily sort this from outside of a cubicle, directing him. And that your retrieving him every time something goes wrong would be detrimental to him.
It is not acceptable, no. (My youngest sister has just been potty trained at five, and is doing fine- she was neglected, and had severe sores when she was a lot younger, so she was always good at holding it, it was just when how and where to do it...) But when we sent her to school in pants (knickers, panties?) The school refused to believe that we'd taught her, and would put her in nappies as soon as my mother left her. Then she'd be convinced that because she was in a nappy she'd wet herself, and would hold it all day until she got home, often ending in accidents....
We pulled her out of the school this month, as all communication had broken down. A rival school is offering to take her and do better! :)
Don't bow down to the schools wishes, if it means refusing to pick him up until the school day ends, or removing him until you have found the right drug dose, don't let them prevent you from doing what you think is right for your son.
P.S. Do it in writing. You can draft it a million times, you can keep records and you can guarantee emotional control!
Nowadays, school take precautions to not get involved in helping since of some sex sandals and whatnot. Like you said how the nurse told you that because of his age and his development of memory. I'm not saying your son might make false accusations. But the school wouldn't want a student to say things such as "Oh, She touch me there." or in a worst scenario, "I got raped." Again, not saying your son would say any of this. The school is just being careful of what they do. So that's why you are in charge of coming to the school and cleaning him up.
Also may I suggest having him on diapers for a while. It would save you time. I know he is too old to wear them and might adapt to it again without learning the use of the toilet. But you can talk to him and say how the medication sometimes makes him unaware that he is going. And when he realize that he needs to go then he can slip off the diaper and go.
the school should deal with it - it's not fair on you, the school has no consideration on if you have plans or anything
unacceptable
Oh its ok, with any luck, there'll be a new hitler soon, and then your little boy won't be a burden on anyone anymore.
It is not the responsibility of the school to potty train your child. I am clueless as to why you have not yet potty trained your child. He is apparently trainable or you wouldn't have him in school, so what is the issue. Schools have specific rules about children who are not potty trained and these rules have stood the test of time. You say you have him in underwear, but it should be diapers until he gains control of his bowels. You need to research and contact an expert to take the proper steps to potty train your child. Good Luck and God Bless You.
Yes, and here is why.
Every kindergarten class has a teacher and 1 aide.
There are up to 32 students in the classroom. Now please understand this because it happened to me and other aides. Imagine yourself in the classroom and you may have on any given day 2,3,4 students who all of a sudden have to go or have gone in their underwear. What are you to do? Naturally you need to respond to all these children. And while you are taking care of them,(try to take care of 4 at one time) there may be a student in the classroom who is throwing up...There are so many different scenarios of what can happen at any given time. you've heard the saying, "everything happens at one." And it does, a lot.
A teachers job is to teach, and her aide position is to aid the teacher in any way she directs.... One cannot teach if one is out of the classroom cleaning up a child every day.
You need to work with your son on the weekends and teach him how to clean himself, or better yet, know the signs when he needs to use the restroom....Please don't blame the caring teachers and aides who want to instruct a child to learn. They are not babysitters.
With handicapped children, we also have children in wheel-chairs, and some of our handicapped children have siezures. Our first instruction is to take care of the child, then call the parent. I cannot tell you how many times when calling the parent, the parents says," he's your problem while he is in school." Or if the child falls down because he is not well balanced on his feet, that after calling the parent, the parent will say, "well if he isn't bleeding then just deal with it." Most parents of handicapped children alone treat us like we are their babysitters. We are not...
Pre-school and handicapped children are very fortunate to be able to attend school at all. That is because of the wonderful teachers and their aides. With the way things are going right now, these programs may be cut because of cost in the next 2-3 years across the country. The money is not there for the schools to continue in some districts.
Children with special needs require a lot of attention.. And you know that as his mother...Make our job easier by teaching him these things at home. Don't belittle the school because this sounds like it is going on everyday.
He has a 1:1 aid, and is in a SPED class at his school. Yesterday the nurse confronted me about the teacher's complaining he was smelling like feces. I told her that it might be a side effect of his medication. She said "yes but it also might just be immaturity". This morning when I dropped him off I was getting him out of the van and I could smell him. He was fine when we left the house. We went inside and I asked the nurse if we could use her bathroom. She let us so I cleaned him up and helped him put some clean clothes on. Then on our way out I stopped and talked to her about how the pediatrician put him on Mirilax yesterday when we seen him and told her that this might cause him to have loose stools for a few days while we are finding the right dose.
She told me that everytime my son smells like poop, has streeks in his underwear, oozes, or poops himself that I will be called to either come to school and clean him up, or take him home, give him a bath, and be expected to bring him back again. She said that she can not help him because of his age. She said children his age have better memories than preschoolers do. She then went on to tell me that some nurses might like at hospitals but she is not going to. He has always had extra clothes... three complete outfits, along with flushable wipes at school since the first day. I don't understand why they can not help him clean himself at school? I think it is unacceptable for them to call me everytime he smells. I could see if it was down his legs and a big mess, but they are all contained in his underwear. It has not been easy teaching my son his self help skills. He will quickly learn that if he poops himself, does not wipe, etc. that Mommy will have to come get him. That might cause some regression in the skills that have been hard for him to learn. Do you think that it is acceptable for the school to expect me to come get him everytime he smells?Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
I can feel your frustration. It is extremely difficult to parent a child with autism - twice as hard to teach the basic skills that other children learn instantly and then there is the regression at the slightest change.
I am sure the nurse is stating school policy, but the teacher does not asound as if she is aware of the situations that can arise with children with autism.
As a parent, I would request that the IEP team be reconvened to discuss this issue. You might ask your son's doctors to write of his current medical situation to add to the discussion. If there is a special ed supervisor who oversees the autism program, invite them also and finally, the supervisor of the school system's nurses.
At the meeting, request that a medical plan be put into effect for your son. This will detail what is to be done when the situation arises and who is responsible for implementing each step. The doctors will have the opportunity to have input at this level.
In addition, ask that his special ed teacher %26amp; speech therapist develop social stories to help your son learn what to do when he feels the need to use the bathroom or when he has an accident.
Finally, since wiping is an issue, it sounds as if he might have some sensory issues with the whole 'poop" idea. If he is not already receiving it as a related service, make sure you request an Occupational Therapy evaluation through an IEP review/revision.
Hope this gives you some ideas. Best of Luck!
if its a public school, i dont think even special ed classes put wiping childrens feces in their job description. I would suggest a special school for children with related illnesses or home schooling.Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
Yes. Sorry about your son.
Unfortunatly, yes. But in your defense the nurse sounds like a beeeeatch.Is it acceptable for the school to send my child with autism home every time he smells like poop?
It's sucks, but yes.
Hun i have to agree with some of the answers here, i know for a fact that 'some' children do have these problems But.. i know there is a new law about cleaning children that have messed or wet themselves especially Special needs children.Thomas %26lt;%26lt;%26lt;here was in diapers/nappies up until he was 8 and the school could change him because he was in diapers, but when it came to changing him to pants then they couldn't do and i was also called into school and had to change him myself, so yes i do agree they are doing what the new school law says they should do, i know its tough Hun but its tough for them sometimes when their hands are tied
My child has issues. Miralax is not the best choice for her. I give her two strips of Colace every night (Fleet brand Pedia-Lax, which also comes in a liquid. There is a penguin on the box).
She sits on the potty stool for an hour watching the Powerpuff girls every morning. Usually if she poops in the morning, she is OK for the rest of the day.
It works pretty well for us, if I am consistent with the routine.
You might contact the local school board to find out if it is legal for the 1:1 aide to wipe him up. You might try to find out if they can get an aide that is able to wipe him up. Legally, there are all kinds of issues with helping a child with cleaning himself, because of new rules governing sexual misconduct (as insane as that sounds).
Your child is entitle to a free and equal education. The school is required to send a teacher home with your child if necessary. You might ask the principal if that would be better for the school . Not that this is what you want- but it may help in your argument for an aide that can attend to bathroom issues. It is no good for anybody to have your child miss so much school.
I really think it is reasonable to send a child home that smells like feces. It is disruptive to the classroom environment. There is a concern about spreading disease. Other parents and teachers might have concerns about Hepatitis B contamination.
I wish all schools had a bidet for this kind of problem. but I do not know how you would get a school to spend the money.
I find it unfortunate the school nurse has been so unprofessional. You should report her to the principal and the Board of Nursing for refusing to perform duties part of her job description and within nursing scope of practice.
Yes, I think it's acceptable for the school to call you in to do it. It may be a pain but it's part of what needs to be done. The school needs to protect themselves. All it takes is one child saying that the nurse did something inappropriate and the school is in deep do-do (no pun intended) and the nurse loses their job.
i worked with kids with austim---we helped tehm with their hygiene no matter what their age--without sending them home or calling teh parent
TEACHING can include teaching hium to clean himslef up.....that is very common with children with dsiabilities
They are there to teach not clean up... i would understnad if it happened just a little bit but it seems like it happens everyday. lower the doseage it isnt their responsibillity
I do not know what the law is, but this is ridiculous. I have been a school teacher for 17 years. I have cleaned bottoms and change soiled pants. Good teachers and nurses even keep a stock pile of clothes for accidents. I'm not sure but I think the 1:1 aid is the one who should be taking care of this. That's what the aid is partly for. The school district is receiving money because they have your child with his certain disability. Make them do their job!
Just wanted to say that I think JazzyGee has given you some excellent advice. I feel for you and understand your frustrations with the school. I really thought there were laws now days that cover these kind of things with special education children and protect their rights to get an education. My niece that I have custody of is in special ed and there is a boy in here class that wears diapers and they change him everyday when needed. He even has a toddler bed in the classroom for naps and this is in high school. With a seven year old I really cannot believe this is such a big issue. Good luck and stand your ground. You are right and are not asking too much.
If he has a 1:1 aid that person should be qualified to work with him and all the challenges that come along with his condition. The teacher was wrong to say he was immature. He has autism. Geish!
Get a doctor to write a note/letter to the school explaining the special needs and medication issues or find a different school. If I were you I would be fighting the school to get him through the phase he is in because he is growing at the rate he was born to grow at. I would go to the principal or the school board.
Your teacher's lack of support shows a system that will allow for him to fail and be teased later on in his school life. This is not a normal sitaution.They need to realize it and stop being so prissy.
Wow. Some of these answers are just ignorant.
Sounds like the nurse is stating a policy. Find out where the policy came from and explain your son's situation completely. If the nurse is concerned about her personal liability (and it sounds to me like she is) the 1:1 assistant should be available to stand by as the nurse cleans your son.
I agree that your son will quickly poop to make you show up.
Stand your ground. The nurse does sound like a hag.
Final thought: you can stop the med that causes it. Constipation won't kill him. Give him more fiber and prunes, instead.
No, the school should be able to deal with this.
A mainstream school my sister was at was perfectly capable of changing her nappies (diapers).
Maybe they are concerned about 'touching' your child?
You need to point out that his age is nothing to do with his mental state, and thus they can't refuse to deal with it. It doesn't even sound as if it's a major issue. If he has changes of clothes and can be instructed to wipe, they can easily sort this from outside of a cubicle, directing him. And that your retrieving him every time something goes wrong would be detrimental to him.
It is not acceptable, no. (My youngest sister has just been potty trained at five, and is doing fine- she was neglected, and had severe sores when she was a lot younger, so she was always good at holding it, it was just when how and where to do it...) But when we sent her to school in pants (knickers, panties?) The school refused to believe that we'd taught her, and would put her in nappies as soon as my mother left her. Then she'd be convinced that because she was in a nappy she'd wet herself, and would hold it all day until she got home, often ending in accidents....
We pulled her out of the school this month, as all communication had broken down. A rival school is offering to take her and do better! :)
Don't bow down to the schools wishes, if it means refusing to pick him up until the school day ends, or removing him until you have found the right drug dose, don't let them prevent you from doing what you think is right for your son.
P.S. Do it in writing. You can draft it a million times, you can keep records and you can guarantee emotional control!
Nowadays, school take precautions to not get involved in helping since of some sex sandals and whatnot. Like you said how the nurse told you that because of his age and his development of memory. I'm not saying your son might make false accusations. But the school wouldn't want a student to say things such as "Oh, She touch me there." or in a worst scenario, "I got raped." Again, not saying your son would say any of this. The school is just being careful of what they do. So that's why you are in charge of coming to the school and cleaning him up.
Also may I suggest having him on diapers for a while. It would save you time. I know he is too old to wear them and might adapt to it again without learning the use of the toilet. But you can talk to him and say how the medication sometimes makes him unaware that he is going. And when he realize that he needs to go then he can slip off the diaper and go.
the school should deal with it - it's not fair on you, the school has no consideration on if you have plans or anything
unacceptable
Oh its ok, with any luck, there'll be a new hitler soon, and then your little boy won't be a burden on anyone anymore.
It is not the responsibility of the school to potty train your child. I am clueless as to why you have not yet potty trained your child. He is apparently trainable or you wouldn't have him in school, so what is the issue. Schools have specific rules about children who are not potty trained and these rules have stood the test of time. You say you have him in underwear, but it should be diapers until he gains control of his bowels. You need to research and contact an expert to take the proper steps to potty train your child. Good Luck and God Bless You.
Yes, and here is why.
Every kindergarten class has a teacher and 1 aide.
There are up to 32 students in the classroom. Now please understand this because it happened to me and other aides. Imagine yourself in the classroom and you may have on any given day 2,3,4 students who all of a sudden have to go or have gone in their underwear. What are you to do? Naturally you need to respond to all these children. And while you are taking care of them,(try to take care of 4 at one time) there may be a student in the classroom who is throwing up...There are so many different scenarios of what can happen at any given time. you've heard the saying, "everything happens at one." And it does, a lot.
A teachers job is to teach, and her aide position is to aid the teacher in any way she directs.... One cannot teach if one is out of the classroom cleaning up a child every day.
You need to work with your son on the weekends and teach him how to clean himself, or better yet, know the signs when he needs to use the restroom....Please don't blame the caring teachers and aides who want to instruct a child to learn. They are not babysitters.
With handicapped children, we also have children in wheel-chairs, and some of our handicapped children have siezures. Our first instruction is to take care of the child, then call the parent. I cannot tell you how many times when calling the parent, the parents says," he's your problem while he is in school." Or if the child falls down because he is not well balanced on his feet, that after calling the parent, the parent will say, "well if he isn't bleeding then just deal with it." Most parents of handicapped children alone treat us like we are their babysitters. We are not...
Pre-school and handicapped children are very fortunate to be able to attend school at all. That is because of the wonderful teachers and their aides. With the way things are going right now, these programs may be cut because of cost in the next 2-3 years across the country. The money is not there for the schools to continue in some districts.
Children with special needs require a lot of attention.. And you know that as his mother...Make our job easier by teaching him these things at home. Don't belittle the school because this sounds like it is going on everyday.
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