Son might have pdd-nos thinking abt. another child?

weve through alot with our son he just turned two, not yet dx with pdd-nos but physcologist might think thats what he has too young to dx he said. weve have spent lots of money on doctors and therapy (have insurance too) private sessions we pay for. the state pays for his early intervention. i would like to have another baby (hes my first) but im scared and dont know if ill have to go through this again and if i can do it. its been a hard 2 years but hes doing great, just scared that it could be somethg different this time around. will i most likly have another child with same case??? i just would like to prepare myself. we dont know what god will give us but just wondering what the odds are. anyone out there have a pdd child and second one to be ok.???? thanks in advance. i love my baby so much and ill do whatever it takes................thanks for reading and understandingSon might have pdd-nos thinking abt. another child?
I know it is a hard decision; and it's one that you need to make with your husband and the Lord's guidance as to what is best for you and your family.



My oldest is now a teenager. His EI teachers gave us the official diagnosis of high-functioning autism just around his 3rd birthday while his month old baby sister rested in her car seat by my feet. Though we'd already suspected this, it still hurt even while I felt relief at finally knowing what was "wrong." He now has a total of 4 younger sisters. :-) None of them are on the spectrum. That doesn't mean they don't have a few issues of their own--3 of those 4 have needed speech therapy, though none lost all their language as he did (Through hard work and literally Miracles, it's now hard to get him to stop talking--LOL!). And having an older brother who never completely gets it is a challenge for them. My oldest daughter is more like my oldest because she has to be--her brother may be physically older, but he's still a little boy mentally. But I am so glad to have them all.



However, I also know the worry of "Will this one be okay? Will we be walking the same road with this new baby?" My husband and I basically came to the decision that if the Lord sent us another with autism, we would then be done simply because of the stress on the family, and after going to the Lord in prayer to let Him know our reasons and to make sure this was the correct decision for us.



And really and truly, that's what it all comes back to--what is right for you and your family. It may be best to wait a little longer, or not to. Is there a chance that another child will have it? Yes, there always is. I remember reading after we learned our son had it that the chances of having another sibling was 25%, if there were two siblings with it, then the chances increased to 50%, but it's been years since I read this (Parents Magazine?), and statistics may have changed. However, the risks for a son are greater than for a daughter simply because boys tend to have it more than girls.



So, know that you aren't alone in your fears/concerns. All of us who have children with difficulties wonder if our next child will have it again. It's normal. At least we know where to go for help now, right? :-) Trust the Lord and do what you and your husband feel is best and know He will support you as He already is.



May you always feel His great love for you!



Best wishes!Son might have pdd-nos thinking abt. another child?
pdd-nos kids tend to be very low on the autism spectrum, and they tend to grow out of it some once theyve hit the teen years, so i wouldnt worry too much. autism in the large majority of cases is not hereditary, so the odds of the second child having it is next to none.Son might have pdd-nos thinking abt. another child?
My son who is 6 has an Autism Spectrum Disorder which is most likely Aspergers. My daughter is 2 and couldn't be more different from my son in almost every way, she shows no sign at all of having any form of ASD. Of the two of them I would say my son has generally been a bit easier to deal with than my daughter, although different problems are now emerging. We just take it as it coms and deal with it the best way we can.

I think the best thing we ever did for my son was give him a sibling, it shows him what is normal, expected behaviour and gives him chance to socialise in his own way with someone who knows him inside out and will love him unconditionally. I wouldn't change either of them, and if there were a cure for ASD I wouldn't give him it as it's part of his personality, it's just who he is. Without the quirkiness he's be a different person.

Do what you think is right for your family, that's all any of us can do.