What should I do in regards to someone obsessing with me?

I am a middle-aged woman on the autism spectrum who passes for "normal", has a good life, and is comfortable with who she is.



A young lady - an adult of a few years, though young enough that she could pass for my daughter if we looked anything alike (which we don't) - who was diagnosed with PDD-NOS last year has since clung to me as though I am oxygen. *I* have become her "special interest". It's driving me crazy.



She sends me many messages every day asking if I'm all right, if my family is all right, if I would like this or that, what I'm doing at the moment, ad infinitum. I don't reply to all of these messages, but that doesn't deter them. Also, this gal is an evangelical Christian and I have no inclinations toward her religion, so she tries to respect this only to tell me that she loses sleep because she cries thinking of me "going to hell".



I am on a huge pedestal. She writes stories in which I am an unconquerable heroine, gives me presents, thinks about me constantly, and views me as much more confident and strong than I view myself as. I'm comfortable with myself. I'm not superwoman!



She has become my shadow. If I said jump, she would not only ask how high, she would talk about how wonderfully amazing it was that I told her to jump. She would then eagerly follow me around asking me if I was going to ask her to jump again. Aggggh!



My shadow is not dangerous by any means. She is going through a rough time, and she is very sensitive and I don't want to hurt her. I am flattered to be so admired. The problem is that this has gone too far. I've got an extremely maternal heart, as well, and I only want to lose a stalker while keeping her as a friend/daughter-figure.What should I do in regards to someone obsessing with me?
You have to be down to earth and honest no matter how it hurts but don't say too much! Just tell her you love,respect and care about her and you thank her for all that she has done but you're really need a time and space more often.



Tell her that then all of the good things you just said and mean! Tell her that you are flattered to be so admired, You want to keep her as your daughter figure and friend.



Maybe she is looking for something in you that she has never had before and she found that in you. Try a deep heart felt meaningful conversation with her. Do you know why she see's you as this superwoman?What should I do in regards to someone obsessing with me?
i would definately talk to her about it. maybe if not by yourself, you have someone there with you when you talk to her. She needs to know that everyone has boundaries that need to be set. If it is really necessary and she doesnt stop, you could file a restraining order but if you want to keep her close i would just talk to her about it and take it seriously.What should I do in regards to someone obsessing with me?
Are there some other people around her age that she might be able to identify with and become friends with? If she respects and admires you so much, perhaps you might suggest that she expand her circle of friends. Maybe you could invite some people her age over to meet her or get her involved in a church youth group, since she is religious.

I don't know what PDD-NOS is, but you could tell her that the flattery and gifts make you feel a little uncomfortable because you haven't done anything to deserve all of the attention. Maybe direct her energy toward bringing gifts to seniors in a nursing home?