I'm lonely in life and don't know how to make new Friends?

I don't know how to make friends. I can't make new friends. I have PDD-NOS (a type of autism) and am very, very shy. I'm not really looking for "internet friends" . I need real- live ones in my life. What is wrong? Everywhere I walk I bang into a wall. I don't want to live this life. I'm stuck and instead of moving horizontal I'm digging a grave vertical. Don't tell me... it's my choice. I don't make the effort to make friends. Is this it? Is this actually what I really want? Am I blaming PDD-NOS for all the bad choices I'm making? What is PDD-NOS anyway? Some describe people with an autistic spectrum disorder as being sorounded by 4 walls. Yep, it's true. Together with social phobia it's a burning inferno. I have no-one to blame for this-except for maybe God.



Anyway, I'm getting off topic. How can I make friends that is "idiot and autistic proof"?I'm lonely in life and don't know how to make new Friends?
Join something or volunteer to help people less fortunate. You'll meet people sharing the same interest. You won't be focusing on yourself you'll be too busy.
The first thing that came to mind when reading your question is that you should find people with similiar challenges to befriend. Not only do you have something in common which makes it easier to make friends, but you also may benefit from learning from others who are like you. Anyway, don't blame God, he made you just the way he wanted, and he doesn't make mistakes.I'm lonely in life and don't know how to make new Friends?
It's not your fault; lets say your hanging out somewhere, I'll use school/college as an example, just say whatevers on your mind, make jokes; the key is to never care what anyone thinks about you and you'll make a hit. Also you may want to make people aware when beginning a friendship with them about your "disorder", maybe try to make a joke of it too. Self deprecation is usually a hit with others. Hang in there, be yourself and act however you want to act, you'll do fine. Good luck
I have no doubt that you can find friends! What is it that you like to do? Join a club for that! I don't think it's that you don't make an effort to make friends, it's that you don't know how to get started. There are lots of books by people with autism and without to help you with some of this. An occupational therapist can help you to! Maybe there is a support group you can go to?



Also, perhaps some anxiety medicine prescription might help to get you started?



Someone was jsut telling me about an autistic lady that lives in Colorado that wrote several books. She says she watched people interact with each other to learn. Her big thing was when people would enter a room and how they woudl smile and what they would say. She practiced this... it sounded interesting.I'm lonely in life and don't know how to make new Friends?
I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. I know how you feel, though--I'm Asperger's (another autism spectrum disorder) and extremely introverted. I usually don't mind doing stuff alone because people tire me out, but some things are more fun when you have somebody to share them with; and don't get me started how dismal my dating life is. What do you like to do? Do more of it, and find other people who also like it, even if it's eccentric.